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Originally Posted by Crissy Snow  Where do I begin with this type of topic? Well I never knew this about men with a big penis and it really made me think about it. (*just some men, not all)
A few months back I was talking to a fellow on yahoo, and it wasn't the usual thing from a guy here on LPSG. Well he was getting very emotional about his penis size. I kinda felt bad about it but I had to lend him my time to hear him out. He told me that he was tired of women using him. I didn't understand what he meant until he said he felt like a sex object.
For example women will hook up with him have sex with him then when he wants to get serious they would just get turned off by it. He wanted a serious relationship but women were just getting to his large penis and not spending time with him or getting to know him for who he was. He just wanted some affection and love not just sex all the time.
So I was curious are there any guys out there that feel that way? |
It has happened to me although since I have been gay most of my life and am around men they are the ones I usually have to be careful about. There are also over tyhe years many women who have made the approach and started the whole seduction routine, some have been slower and slyer about it--let's go have lunch or dinner or whatevere or the popular one with the friend who cancelled last minute to go see a movie would I go, and in 2 cases during a movie I have had her hand first on m,y knee and then slowlly moving towards the crotch. I get tired of having to remove the offending hand.
The key to forming the relationship based on actual feelings othere than just sex or them wanting to get a biggie of their own is to go slow.--not that I'nm very good at that. Don't go for the sex right away, wait a few weeks or even months. If all they want is the penis and its size then they won't tend to wait around past a coup;e of dates. When I have been serious about a person--has happened 7 or 8 times in my life-- I have held off on the sex. Other stuff happens, hand holding, kissing, but sex is out until we know each other better. My first wife and I held out until a month before marriage and we had known each other for 5 years and been together for more than 2 on the dating circuit.(My hands saw a lot of action back then because I wanted to have sex but needed to wait) and then my last relationship was with Ray. We met about 10 years before we started to consider going out together and he had heard the runmor about my size. We were going with each othere for about 4 months before we got to the crotch grope--a rare thing in gay relationships and even rarer for a sex hog like me, but I knew I wanted somehting legitimate with him and I waited, Again, my hands saw a lot of action. When we finally got there, I was surprised and thrilled that he was paking as well. He was not as into sex as I was but had also felt a need to take it slow.
That's really what it comes to--the guy has the right to take it slow, he just has to make that decision and then he will have a better idea if theree's relationship potential or not.
Butting in to the thread to say I had a similar experience with a guy- we never had sex, but used to talk online a lot and he had similar feelings about it. he said it was cool at first, a turn on- but he got pretty upset a couple times when girls he thought he could really have something special with, werent interested in him personally. He had begun to worry that there was some personality flaw- and eventually he stopped having immediate sex, stopped letting women know his size- and had better luck tho he is still single he is feeling better about himself.
