Ever had a "Man Crush?"

What many of you have described is a true friendship. We all need super close friends. Also, we need close friends of our own gender.
I have been fortunate enough in life to have some close friends but only 1 true male friend. I was a true friend to a couple of guys but they weren't to me. It seems to be really rare these days. You not only have to find someone who is compatible but put in the major time and love required. So many people are not willing to put forth the effort. It's easier to sit in front of the tv than to live life. Some peeps are just too selfish and/or lazy to do it.

Matthew,

Perhaps the sexual tension is what causes a bit of a problem between yourself and other gay men...

Yes DEE, that does make a lot of sense.

This subject has not been widely researched and deserves more study. If you're up to the challenge, you're only a proposal and a research grant away from a scientific study.

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Originally Posted by DeeBlackthorne You know, I'm tempted to think that mancrushes are more physically-oriented in nature and that bromances are more emotional. The two have come up in this thread. Guys can admire or appreciate other guys for their physical attributes, and that usually get expressed in different ways. DJG and I have used the word bromance to talk about friendships and emotional relationships with men. You think this idea holds water?

i'll keep that in mind esp if i can find good statistical terminology -- let's see if bromance will fly. :P

I must have a mancrush on Dee's avatar. When I first joined LPSG I was a bit captivated by his goatee and general good looks. Still am. Now I know he's a bright guy too.

I had a crush on the mailman. He never delivered.............

What are you smokin Big Dude - you're cracking me up this morning - has wig and size eleven stilettos at the ready.

Bromance is a great word - I will definitely use it.

Im just my silly self i can't help it...........

I have man crushes all the time. I have a man crush on a lot of guys on this forum. Guy love, that's all it is....

YouTube - scrubs - guy love

YouTube - "Guy Love" - House/Wilson

I guess the two terms can't be mutually exclusive, though.

A point was brought up in the chat room today about imagining if it's possible for two bromancees to be so comfortable with each other that, if opportunities arose, that they could jack off. In fact, I think it would be easier to do something like that just because the comfort zone is generally better expanded between these two men. If anything further, anecdotally, a man might prefer not to "waste" the boner and if his buddy is riled up too, they could fire away.

(I'm trying not to make it sound as fantastical as two guys jerking off together in an amateur porn type sense. I want to emphasize the impact of expanded comfort zones.)

It might be a harder case to rid the excluisivity the other way around. Bromancees might be comfortable enough to pursue physical interaction, but it's a bit harder to plead the corresponding relationship (e.g. emotional impact for those in a man crush). See below.

Two dudes mancrushing on each other might be perpetually caught in a admiration-hesistance realm of interaction. The idea of jacking off with his friend might be very captivating and promising indeed, and he might even recognize some attraction he has toward his friend. However, for fear of being crushed, rejection, spurned, or made vulnerable by his admiration for his friend, he keeps very quiet as to not disturb the blissful-enough dynamic as is. Unlike the bromancees, the mancrushers haven't developed enough interpersonal intimacy. They certainly might demonstrate some of it (even unknowingly), but the intimacy there is always externally directed to some sort of activity -- drinking together, playing sports together. Beyond admiration and superficial knowledge, say, of one's tolerance for alcohol or athleticism, the mancrushers hardly know much about each other beyond surface.

Emotional contact does happen, but it isn't to the same degree of commitment as evidenced by bromancees. To be sure, bromancees are probably well aware and self-aware of their feelings and thoughts while participating in a broad range of interactive behavior. They know their care and esteem and love for the other person; they feel comfortable, enjoy the time and the comfort. When traversing into physical or sexual interaction, they are thoughtful enough to stay as self-aware regardless of the level of contact.

(This is to further specify that bromancees can exhibit a wide range of physical behavior so long as they both feel it's consensual and safe. There is no certain way to determine if the two would jack off or do more than that, but it would be done in a cognizant manner.)

Whew. Enough intellectualism for now.

Menfatuation. Getting brokeback. Trippin' the heart mantastic. Buddy love.

All this seems so homoerotic. (Everyday, I get an unrequited man crush on some male--straight, bi or gay. Hey, blame it all on my gay testosterone!!! I don't mind the fantasies though.)

My friends in high school used to get man crushes on each other, myself, and, most often, our ridiculously intelligent teachers. I found it amusing.

I have a mancrush on Indistrialsize!!! Oops did I say that out loud?

First of all, I think I have a man crush on you because you're stunning, VoodooGuy.

Second of all, I actually have a man crush on the entire male gender. See: Straight men are beautiful

Though this thread is about straight men only, I have a man crush on gay men as well. Gay men are usually very intelligent and creative and artistic.

Let's face it. Men are the superior gender, LOL.

I think that the the phrase might have been derived from "girl crush" which I believe first came to mainstream attention through a NYtimes article.

To think that men are incapable of experiencing the same feeling is ridiculous. I'd say most if not all straight men have had man crushes. I know I have, but it did not involve any sexual desire. Only admiration.