Inkubus,

I strongly recommend the following book. It's all about the expectations on African-American men that they be hugely hung. It's a good read.....

Hung : A Meditation on the Measure of Black Men in America (Hardcover)
by Scott Poulson-Bryant

It just came out a few months ago and is all about what you are struggling with.

One of my my closet friends is a black Dutch guy and he is not as well hung as I am and he often jokes that he wishes he could just borrow my dick for the night to match people's - especially American guys' - expectations.

So I've heard first-hand the kind of pressure you are talking about...

One thing that the book's author writes about frequently is how gay men often say " what a big, beautiful black dick" whereas they never say "what a big beautiful white cock."....

THe latter I have heard from a few African-American men (a couple of times I suspect as a joke)..but he's right: I hear "huge dick" or "great dick" or "enormous dick" but the color of my skin is never mentioned.....Gives one pause for thought