Where ever you are living, move away now. Sometimes it's the location. I live in an small outskirts town and we are so ass backwards, and behind the times that it's not even funny. You need to find a place of extreme diversity, a place where there is so much going past ones eyes that all myths are busted wide open and people are open minded. I'm in the smae boat, but out here the myth is that all gay men are camp, wear feather boas, and a plus sized fag hag.