Couple has dilemma after experiencing huge cock

I don't have too much to say that hasn;t already been said, but I'll say again that the rule should have been clear from the start. It is very hard to through rules in as you go. If they were clear from the start and she acted outside of them then in my opinion she cheated plain and simple. Do with that what you will. Just my two cents.

Pandora's box man, Pandora's box.

Apart from anything emotionally....It's kind of worrying that he doesn't appear to be wearing a condom in the pics that you posted....

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Sorry, but I disagree with that. Sometimes it does clearly, but there are plenty of couples out there who enjoy a perfectly healthy relationship in the lifestyle. I know because I'm in one of them, and lots of couples that we play with are equally happy. It's simply a question of establishing ground rules that everybody can be happy with.

That's not to say that there haven't been ugly moments of jealousy and nastiness.... I've already written about one recently, and I'm about to describe another that I think is relevant to this situation. The first time I saw my g/f take a really huge penis in front of me, I completely freaked out at how she reacted. The guy was easily 10 honest-to-god inches, and we had been talking beforehand about how large he was, and we were both looking forward to the experience.

Unfortunately, all was not well in our relationship at that point in time, as we had been split up for a while and were just patching things up and getting back together. In hindsight, we had no business trying it at that time, but we just didn't know any better because we were new. We met with the other couple and their guy friend for a total of 3 men and 2 women. I was ostensibly to play with the wife while the husband played with my g/f, but it didn't quite work out that way. The wife didn't seem very interested in me, and it really ended up with my g/f and the husband being the stars of the show and everybody else watching them.

I had never seen such reactions from her. He initially bent her over the back of the couch and prepared to take her from behind, and she was begging him not to hurt her and please be careful. That caught me off guard. After some time on the couch, we all moved to the bed, where they continued the show like never before. She was screaming and moaning in a way that I had never heard before, and I was beginning to feel increasingly inadequate. Any man who has ever been in that situation knows exactly the sick feeling I'm talking about.

It eventually got to the point where I got up and went in the other room to sit down because I didn't want to see any more. It was very clear to everybody that I wasn't having a good time, and in a few minutes my g/f came in and asked if I was OK. I said not really and told her why, and then there was a big fight about it in front of everybody. (Liberal alcohol consumption that night didn't help things any.)

The night was over at that point, leaving everybody with a bad experience. I came away from that experience with several lessons, the most important of which is be careful what you wish for. I had always thought it would be hot to see her take a big one, but in reality it made me sick (physically) for weeks because I wasn't ready emotionally to handle it. The second lesson I learned is that if you -as a couple - are going to make it work, you both have to be crystal clear about what you want from the experience and what you expect in terms of ground rules. My suggestion would be open communication about it.

These things are very complicated because they play to such deep-seated emotions and fears that in many cases we don't understand it ourselves, much less explain it to anybody else. But one thing is clear to me: If you are uncomfortable with the situation, don't be afraid to speak up and say so. If you don't like it, put a stop to it and don't feel obligated to let it keep going on just because your wife wants it. If anybody is uncomfortable, the deal has to be off. Otherwise you will end up divorced.

If your wife really loves you - and it sounds like she does - she should understand your feelings. Mine did, although it took a long time for us to get past this experience and get to a place where we could really both enjoy it together. Now it's just a thing in our past, and we can laugh about it, but if we hadn't really talked about it and tried to understand each other's feelings, it could very well have been the end of our relationship right there.

Talk to her, and if you can't agree on some ground rules, you don't need to be doing it.

Wow! So many great replies. I was nervous about posting this in a public forum but now I'm very glad I did. You've all given me a lot to think about. Thank you.

My wife and I are very much in love. That's never been in question and most of the time we prefer lovemaking to sex for its own sake, if that makes sense. But we both have strong sex drives and sometimes we just like the raw experience. We have a good collection of toys and enjoy some light bonadage (dildos, vibrators, nipple clips, crops, wrist cuffs, blindfold, etc) and she's always enjoyed some light spanking.

What caught me off guard, and what I'm not able to replicate for her is the intensity of fucking to the point she feels like she's being 'raped'. We have discussed it and she admits that it was the brute force of his size that made her feel that way. And she was just as surprised as I was that she even had this rape fantasy in her psyche. I've given her several rough fuckings since then and she's enjoyed it but the intensity falls far short of what he did to her. And we're both aware of that. We even bought a very large dildo but that's just not the same as the real thing. She says it's okay and I shouldn't worry about it. But, of course, I do and can't seem to get it out of my head.

I've never had a problem watching her with another guy and the fact that he had a huge cock isn't threatening to me either. The first day when they were on cam I was really enjoying it and still felt great about it afterwards. The off-cam activity was a problem and she now recognizes that. She's agreed to strictly abide by that rule if we were to resume this with anyone.

The biggest problem I'm having right now is that she's had this extremely intense experience and I wasn't part of it... even as an observer. That's why I'm tempted to invite him back and repeat the whole thing. I want this to be something we've shared together just like all of our other sexual play. I guess if she said he was a 'good fuck' instead of 'the best fuck of her entire life' I might have an easier time just letting it all go. We've shared a lot of'good fucks' together over the years.

The other problem I'm having is a trust issue but I'm inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt. When we were talking about the off-cam issue and 'restrictions' she eventually made a comment that she was so swept away by the experience that her usual good judgement left her for a bit. Funny that someone used the phrase 'Pandora's Box' because that's exactly the reference she made! She says she wouldn't let it go that far again but 'once bitten, twice shy' as they say.

For now, we've stopped any activity with others. We know we'll start again in time because we both enjoy it so much. But how, when, and with who remains to be seen. We need to get our heads on straight before crossing the bridge again. Discussing this here has helped me tremendously in that regard.

A side note: Someone commented about the lack of condoms. She had her tubes tied after our second child was born so birth control is a non-issue. We're very careful about playing safe. The reason we didn't meet this guy until several days after we agreed to it was so that he could get tested and provide us a clean bill of health. We were hoping he was going to be a long-term partner (like our previous MFM friend) and his insistence on playing safe was a key deciding factor for us. And I know this might piss off a few people, but this guy is married and, no, his wife wasn't aware of what was happening. We don't pry into the personal relationships of anyone we hook up with but we prefer sex partners that are in steady relationships to those that are out bed hopping.

Great comments and I agree with almost everything you said. I'm sorry to hear of your bad experience (as quoted) but for me it's quite the opposite. I LOVE hearing her moan and writhe in ecstasy when we're with others. It's very easy for me to project myself onto the other person almost as if I'm the one doing it to her. There's just something so intimate about that and she likes to look me right in the eyes when she's in the midst of it.

Some years ago we organized a gangbang with her, me, and three other guys. Before this most recent guy, THAT way the most intense sexual experience of her life. We only did it the one time because it's such a pain in the ass to find the right group of guys that are all tested safe and so on. But we've re-lived that event many many times in our sex talk. Thinking back on it, maybe that should have been a clue to this rape fantasy. We've both always thought it was that she just really loves cock.

hire a good divorce attorney, it's over, she will never feel you inside her again

Hey you have gotten plenty of responses and seem to be working it all out in your head at least for now. So I would just like to say that you should post this in 'ficticious stories' (even though it is unfortunately complete NON-FICTION) because its the kind of story that a lot of people should read and would actually be turned on by. And you had the pictures to go with. I read it this morning and its been on my mind all day, not in a turn on sort of way, it just stuck a chord in me because I fantasize about the same thing, but am now wary of the box of pandora. I experienced very intense feelings and emotions reading this story and your two replies you should really think about posting them there and just making a caveat that the story is actually REAL.

Good luck I hope everything works out and keep us updated I am especially interested in this becuase it is my fantasy but I also feel it is my worst mightmare, which maybe why I fantasize about it.

I have a time issue right now and haven't read all the replies, but I will suggest if it is size she wants to feel overwhelmed by......

Look online for a dildo that's at least as big, if not slightly bigger, than your extra guy was and play with that.
You can fuck her just as hard with a toy as he did with himself......or very close to that.

But I would add that the 1st red flag would be her "forgetting to turn the cam on" when it was obvious he'd been there awhile.


We have a toy that's larger than hubby and the times he's worked me over with that, I've made sounds I never heard come out of me before.

This a good idea. pseudocognomen you did mention that you all have a collectin of toys. Well men can wear a strapon too. Buy a toy his size or I would say buy one bigger than him (might help your ego) and wear the strapon. This would help you being able to use the force of a body thrusting. This might help out.

if you push her legs up, so her knees are almost in her ears, then it'll feel bigger than it really is.

and dry fucking helps too...no foreplay. just throw her down and bang her.

...not that i'm into this kind of thing.

I hadn't thought of that but it sounds like something worth exploring. Time to do some shopping at JT's Stockroom. The body thrusting and being pinned down is definitely a big part of it. I like this idea!

lol... no, of course you're not!

Actually, that's already one of our favorite positions. And I've definitely been more aggressive lately which we're both enjoying.

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They also make extenyion sleeves for the penis as well as girth sleeve for the penis as well. Kinda the same idea just a differnet toy, lol.

Thanks!! I was hoping that this would not only help me but also help anyone going through a similar situation, or contemplating it.