Top Tips for Wannabe Studs

As a change to the normal schedule, I thought the Women (and perhaps those with experience) might offer their advice in the interests of better sex.

I will open, if I may.

Be dirty during sex, not before.

Basically I think we need to clear up some myths that have arisen from alot of men learning most of what they know about sex from porn.

1 - We generally DON'T cum from just 3 minutes of erratic oral.

2 - Pulling your cock out and slapping our arse cheeks with it doesn't really make us moan with pleasure.

3 - We mostly don't like being folded into very uncomfortable shapes during sex, even if it does mean whoever might be watching would get a better view.

4 - Weird 70s electronic music doesn't turn us on.

5 - You don't need to grow a big bushy moustache in order to be a sex god.

6 - We don't always wear stilettos during sex.

7 - We don't always 'pay' the refigerator repair man by shagging him!

* Do make sure we are in the mood too

* Foreplay consists of more than a tap on the shoulder and a "how about it honey"

* Our boobs are attached, you get to rough and it hurts

* Realise we arent all contortionists

* Sometimes we just dont feel like parading around in the heels and lingerie

* Dont ask is the best sex we have ever had if you dont want an honest answer..

* If you get lost down there, ask for directions (VERY IMPORTANT)

Our ears are not handles!!!!!

Basically I think we need to clear up some myths that have arisen from alot of men learning most of what they know about sex from porn.


1 - We generally DON'T cum from just 3 minutes of erratic oral.
OH man!!! no fucking WAY!!!!!

2 - Pulling your cock out and slapping our arse cheeks with it doesn't really make us moan with pleasure.
How am I going to make her beg for more if I can't slap my cock on her bum?

3 - We mostly don't like being folded into very uncomfortable shapes during sex, even if it does mean whoever might be watching would get a better view.
You haven't met the human contortionist, then.

4 - Weird 70s electronic music doesn't turn us on.
Shake your groove Thang....

5 - You don't need to grow a big bushy moustache in order to be a sex god. Denise, come on!! I have been growing this thing for a YEAR!


6 - We don't always wear stilettos during sex.
You should, it is nice to have taller ladies poking me in the eye.

7 - We don't always 'pay' the refigerator repair man by shagging him!
I just saved 2% on my car insurance by doing the same thing.... it is worth thinking about.


Thanks Denise, I think some people acutally needed that clairification.

UKBBW Denise, that's an interesting notion. Do you think men's sexual technique is influenced by watching porn? I've often wondered that myself. Maybe it's a cause of infertility, the guys keep shooting their load in the girls face! ;) lol

I know I was just being glib in the other posts, but if I'm honest I do think men are influenced by the sex in porn, particularly when seen between puberty and loss of virginity.

But it's not surprising really, we're taught the fundamental facts of reproduction, and how to protect ourselves against pregnancy and disease. But we're not told how to actually have satisfying sex. So, for most people the only time they'll see other people having sex is in porn films.

Then, of course, the next hurdle is these stupid women who fake orgasms - probably because they don't really like sex that much and want it over as soon as possible. They will lead men to believe that it's those of us who take 20+ minutes to reach orgasm are the ones with a problem lol

By the way Jeff - from now on I shall be calling you Magnum - a tribute to your luscious bushy facial fuzz! haha

I learned everything about sex from porn. When I was 13 I found my dad's erotica stash. I never watched many porn movies, and had maybe 10 playboys or hustler type mags in my life, but I do love the erotica.

But yeah, I thought sex was like they write it, and parts of it can be. But I also learned that some of it was obvious myth.

Myths that shocked me;

1) A woman doesn't really want to be pounded for an hour by my cock. 20 minutes, a true 20 minutes is about the max. Then, it's just pain for both of us. You can rub a bit raw when you're a thick guy. I once watched the clock on the nightstand and did doggie for an hour just to prove it to myself. She finally turned around and said, "What's the fucking problem, can't you cum yet?" LOL....I'm glad I married her...lol.

2) Most women, or about half don't masterbate by ramming objects up their pussy. They rub their clits. Learn to rub their clits. THEN ram fingers up their pussy. Got it.

3) When you hit their cervix, they scream in pain, tell you they felt like you kicked them in the kidneys, and it ruins the sex if you aren't careful.

4) My wife (all women are unique) took over a decade to inform me I was too gentle with her nipples. She really likes them bit and pulled hard. I don't like that OUCH! But she's gotta have it. Bottom line, don't assume they like what feels good to YOU. Ask.

[quote]Yes, and as a result they learn very little about women and sex. Heterosexual porn is a very poor educational tool.
My health class in high school was a joke. I did notice they talked about how men become sexually aroused and their subsequent erections but they never said a word about women. They pointed out the clitoris without even discussing its purpose. It's the only organ designed for sexual pleasure and it's always bypassed in favour of keeping the sex talk down to a minimum. That's shameful.
Well, i've never seen a women in hetero porn have an orgasm. They whine and do the "yeah, baby" thing, but I know what an orgasm looks and sounds like and i've yet to see a woman have a real honest-to-goodness orgasm on film. IMO, men can't learn how to please women from watching porn because it's all about men getting off. You don't see people in porn talking to each other about what turns them on or off. Women (being our own worst enemies in this regard) often fake them because in the past they've been told they're taking too long and they get it in their head they should be having quicker orgasms, when in fact, those men are often lazy and just want to get off and not worry about someone else's pleasure. Good lovers want to please their partners as well as themselves.

MB's tip of the day: The more you invest in your partner the greater benefits you reap.

[quote=mercurialbliss;615316]Or in other words - the more you put in the more you get out

You could do worse than learning to do this.

New Ancient Sex Academy

The learn@home section - wont link directly I'm afraid.

[quote=Lordpendragon;615327]I always tend to leave a little bit behind...

[quote=Lordpendragon;615327]The all-seeing eye makes me wonder if the curriculum is written by the Illuminati. Guess it would be fun if you like pagan rituals mixed in with your sexual exploration.

A tip on manual stimulation, which seems to be one of the biggest misunderstanding. Less is more here, step down on intensity, step up on endurance. I don't like it if someone grips and squeezes my breasts like sponges, but some constant rubbing, gentle squeezing, and of course oral treatment fuel my fire. If you want something to dig your hands in, grab my ass ;-)

And another tip on erotic presents: Things that seem so sexy to men, like open-crotched panties, nipple-peek bras, and similar, are not guaranteed to be found sexy by your lady. Instead of proceeding purely by whatever you heard or read somewhere, first consider if your girlfriend/wife/significant other is d'accord with it and would appreciate it. If in doubt, stick closer to her taste than to what you have been told.

It's the best thing to do things your partner finds sexy instead of copying ideas from "Sex Academies" and similar anyways. And if you ever do something your partner doesn't like, and she tells you so, don't back off immediately. Show some flexibility, and move on or around, work it out instead of stopping the game. As I always say about sex (I've frequently thought about putting such a sign on my bedroom door) DANGER! IT'S A MIND FIELD.

For SURE. Don't assume every woman likes the same things, and don't try to think too much. Sometimes a guy has some great technique that perhaps he's planned and thought about, and that's great. But overall, the best way to be I feel is just to relax, be natural and go off the reactions you get from your woman. Her responses will tell you all you need to know. The one thing that is universal for me (not for every woman) is I like guys with staying power. When I get revved up I don't want the man to short fuse and leave me hanging. I fully support men working to achieve the perfect, long-lasting erection. But remember that not everyone likes the same thing, and this is no exception.