Confessions of the BAD lover in you.

Because I'm not perfect. I see all kinds of threads about advanced techniques and how people make their women have a blast in bed.

But my question is: what are your WEAK points? Are you really that perfect that you have none?

My own imperfections:

- I'll admit, I have to make an effort in preliminars... If I'm horny, I want to stick it in, and I want to stick it in FAST. Since I have 6" girth, this is sometimes a problem and yes, I've heard complaints before.
I learned to hold myself a bit with time. I'm much better now, but don't count on me to do 30m preliminars, because that's not going to happen.
I compensate it with a lot of care AFTER sex, like massage, cuddling etc, and for that part I always hear compliments, but I'm here to talk about imperfections, so...

- My 1st time is a pain. I'm usually nervous and can't get a complte hard-on from the beginning. If the girl isn't understanding, it can go badly. No problem after I get a bit of intimacy, but that 1st time, bah... casual sex isn't that carefree for me, I suppose.

I suppose that's it. So, what are yours? There's a lot to pick: cum too fast, no kissing after blowjobs, no cuddling after... pick your poison

I eat fried chicken in bed, wipe my hands on the sheets, burp, am constantly wet and have screaming orgasms and wet dreams all night long. Sorry, just kidding.

I don't know if it's a real issue, but I don't like the taste of sperm. I try to keep it out of my mouth, but with horny guys, accidents can happen. So maybe that's a quirk of mine, I let it drip into a piece of clothing nearby. Of course not my guest's, LOL.

The other point you mentioned yourself: No cuddling afterwards. Sorry, I'm not the type of gal for that, I just have my issues with someone clinging to me like that. Intimacy is a thing that comes without being packed into each other afterwards, in my eyes, and I'll make sure your get your dose of it, but not my too much cuddling.

I'm sure I have more than these, but those above are the two most obvious about me.

On Saturday for the first time ever, I 'finished' (or had had enough, don't think I came), rolled over and went straight to sleep! lol but I was really drunk.

One time I threw up on a girl. She wasn't as kinky as I thought

That's about it, usually I try to make it fun for both of us

My bad points are that, as a bottom gay guy, I am always the one being poked, and as my boyfriend is a big boy, it rubs my prostate, so I do sometimes cum earlier than I would like (after about 20 mins of fucking)

Another bad point of mine is that after sex, I always wanna clean up the jism thats splashed about my person, so Im not mad keen on cuddling.

I have no problem with cum itself though, I am actually quite a keen swallower and I do love a nice facial! Horrah!

In missionary I have to fight as hard as I can to not be a minute-man. This isn't the case in other positions however...

...OB

I usually feel self-conscious about my size the first time and likely will have problems keeping a hard-on if I'm really nervous. Other than that, I'd say my only problem (if it can be called such) is lasting too long and wearing her out. But I have major problems with casual sex and I usually prefer feelings to be involved so cuddling is a must. I'm a pussy :|.

i view women as objects here for my own use and enjoyment

i let a girl live with me cuz
1. she has many times stated she want to be my personal fuck toy

2 her parents are rich and she gets them to give her money to pay for my internet, phone, dishnetwork, water, and power bills


i have several girls who i have sex with on a regular basis and sometimes have 2 over at the same time, at first it was by mistake but when i do it now its for shits and giggles

As almost all males i reached orgasm too early (that means before her)
I tend to lose control and push too deep
Sometimes i do not concentrate on it when i amhaving sex and all gets ruined
I had a couple of defaillances (no erection or erection lost during intercourse)

Nobody's perfect, the only important thing is to improve, and to commit to your partner's pleasure.

I never get any complaints but I guess I can get kind of selfish in bed sometimes. Like if the guy is really good, I get so focused on the pleasure that all I care about is my next orgasm. Some guys find that hot but one guy said it was like I go into my own world. It's different though if I'm in a relationship or just down for a good time.
Oh, the other thing is I don't like the taste of sperm either, so I don't want the guy cumming in my mouth. For some guys that's a turnoff but oh well.

I fucking hate being on top cowgirl style. Hate that shit! I'll do it, and I'll do it for as long as he needs, but he better not fucking cum that way unless he already made sure I was happy. Because I'm not going to get off in that position. After just a few minutes, I'm not nearly as excited as I was, and once that happens, I can feel every little annoying thing: fatigue creeping into my arms and chest (if I'm resting on my hands), lactic acid building up in my butt and thighs, discomfort in my hips. I'd rather have him sit in a chair, and I'll sit in his lap facing him. But I really don't like cowgirl, or even reverse cowgirl, and I get so bored.

Orgasms make me sleepy or hungry.

I'm not very multi-orgasmic. After my orgasms, I'm usually back at zero within a minute or two. It means I have to work really hard at maintaining (or regaining) excitement so I can do a good job of pleasuring my playmate. I've never gotten any complaints (probably because I'm not lazy) but I know I could do so much better if I wasn't: back where I started, sleepy, and/or hungry.

I'm extremely loud.

I'm not particularly flexible. In fact, I may be unusually stiff and tight.

That's all I can think of.

Orgasms make you sleepy or hungry. Funny, really. I wouldn't say I feel especially like the one or the other, but a long, straining session of sex makes me hungry, too. You always have a C ration in your nightstand?

A little advice: Maybe you should offer a cowgirl ride as extra, or incentive for guys to make you happy. I bet if they have the mental image of you being in their saddle, that will spur them to give their best. One question, do you feel better riding if you've had your orgasm before? Or does that feeling wear off just as fast then?

By the way, I don't think being loud, not even extremely, makes you such a bad lover. Guys like some vocal feedback ;-)

I did so many drugs when I was 18/19 yo that I suffered from erectile dysfunction a few times. Luckily my then girlfriend's heroin hookup also had access to viagra.

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I can't believe I just admitted that.

No, I can't really do cowgirl unless I start out really excited, like when I'm getting close to orgasm number two, which means we've already been having sex at least an hour (unless one snuck in during foreplay which often enough happens). Or, I'm willing to do it before orgasm, the guy just can't climax that way unless: He can have a dry orgasm and keep going, he's not going to want to relax before jumping up and doing something amazing to me, I reached a point of satisfaction without having an orgasm. The latter is something I feel from time to time.

Truth be told, I was just describing my inner bad lover. I thin keveryone has that person inside who wants to get off, have a sandwhich, and take a nap. The key, is to keep that bitch in check so she doesn't wreck my social agenda. LOL. As for the noise, more than one dude has covered my mouth one way or another (usually by kissing me) to keep me quiet. Most do seem to like it, but I am aware that not everyone does. It's very, very loud. LOL

I need long sessions of preliminas otherwise i am pratically unable to make love... I don't know if it's a good or bad caracteristic, maybe i am one of those romantic peoples who can't accept the "cold" sex.

Well, after the sex i am really hungry. Not sleepy, never. Maybe because i suffer of insomnia, and then doesn't exist anyone possibility for me to sleep.
According to the sex times, the 2th is allways better of the first for me... IMHO. I "work" really better, or at least that is the idea of my partners.