ahh... by "he" I was referring to my penis, not a man ;)

My partner is a woman.

Anyhow, she took it to mean that I don't find her attractive (*sigh*) so we are having a bit of a fight, and now she says she doesn't ever want to have sex yadda yadda.

as for #1 and #2, easier said than done.

I am reminded of a line from Harry Potter, "The Triwizard Tournament"

"I'm trying, but for some reason a big dragon keeps popping into my head!"