The point of contention in this debate is, and probably always will be, "how is abortion not murder?" not "why are you against this murder but you're not against x, y, z, and Iraq, and little Pe Pe in South America, and the death penalty, and my uncle on life support?"

All of these hypothetical situations and loosely strung together analogies are irrelevant. At best, you could possibly illustrate that most "pro-lifers" are hypocrites... but that doesn't make abortion any less murder. To do that, you'd have to make a solid case for a) human life beginning some time after conception, or b) human life does begin at conception, but taking a life is acceptable in this case.