I have a different view of this whole thing. I don't use either black or white. My partner and I have two sons we adopted when their mother passed away. They were the two youngest of 5 brothers. The family "took" who they wanted and nobody wanted the babies. Their mother was besides being our housekeeper a very dear friend. We raised these boys from diapers. In our house there was no color. They have called each other 'niggar' but just out of earshot of us.
They both were raised colorblind and don't abide with any of the names or slurs. Both have caucasian wives and have presented us with grandchildren that I'm sure will be raised the same as they were.
When they were in high school they told me I was blacker than them... hmmm what do you suppose that meant??