Sexual Orientation?

Unsure of mine.

Although I am attracted to women,but not in a typical way, as I don't find models attractive, but I do find everyday women attractive.

But I do find myself attracted to males in a strange way, but only the most attractive ones, but I still couldn't bear the thought of sex with a male.

Anyone else like that, or am I just a weirdo.

I don't think that many people are 100% straight or 100% gay.

Few men get to date models so the fact that you don't fancy them much isn't really much of a problem.

I don't think you're weird but maybe a bit confused by your feelings. Straight men (as well as gay and bi men) know a handsome man when they see one. They may secretly think of him as handsome or hot without actually wanting to have sex with him.

It is normal for many straight guys to feel warm, close and loving and caring towards other men. It doesn't mean that you want sex with them.

It is normal for many straight guys to think some men are sexy and to think of them when masturbating or to fantasise about sex with a guy without ever wanting to act on these thoughts.

Not wanting to have sex with a guy is as much a matter of societal inhibition (cultural homophobia) as actual attraction or its lack.

You seem to be saying that you are mainly or predominantly straight. If it helps you might label yourself as 1% gay and 99% straight as many guys here do. However, I think labels can be misleading and inexact.

We are each unique in what exactly turns us on - labels do not define us.

To throw in a spanner - some guys decide that the orientation they were convinced of a few years before isn't what they are experiencing now. Sexual orientation is a little more fluid or flexible that most of us prefer to believe it to be.

Sounds to me like you have a very healthy and accepting appreciation of the human body and the varieties it comes in.

If you don't want sex with a guy then you don't, but it in no way stops you appreciating certain men as attractive beings.

I'd say your confusion is born from the myth that only women can appreciate the same sex as being attractive, where as its somehow "gay" for a guy to think the same about another guy.

(I replied in your other thread, but will post it here too)

Sounds to me like you have a very healthy and accepting appreciation of the human body and the varieties it comes in.

If you don't want sex with a guy then you don't, but it in no way stops you appreciating certain men as attractive beings.

I'd say your confusion is born from the myth that only women can appreciate the same sex as being attractive, where as its somehow "gay" for a guy to think the same about another guy.

you're a weirdo


joking.....sexuality is like height or intelligence.....i dont think its as similar being that its not trully a bell curve like the other two but the same general idea. It is a continuum with very few people either completely straight or completely gay. Its easier to classify to make people feel like they are part of a group, however, sexuality is much more than "straight or gay"

Well, about the only comment I can make, is that it seems you know what attracts you, which is useful---elimintaes wasting a bunch of time with those you DON'T find attractive.

Yeah I appreciated 'skyray's' response to this, a lot. I think he hit several nails on the head. For me, orientation has always been a fluid thing - evolving - and changing throughout my life. There are times when I just feel warm & loving things for male friends, or whatever but could never desire sex with them, but there are other guys that just flip my switch to the sexual side and before you know it I'm fantasizing about sex with them and if the situation presented itself, I'd play.

I feel 60/40 (weighted toward 'gay') but I'm truly bisex. And yet, I've never actually HAD sexual relations with a man. But I know the potential exists, so I feel the ratio is correct. For today :)

models are not hot, they are nasty and the reason they are nasty skinny flesh bags is cuz of the euro-fag fashion designers who want to make all men into fags.


you want to talk about hot models we have to go back 15-20+ years to the days of Cathy Ireland or Cindy Crawford, now them are hot models

Dude, even Cathy Ireland and Cindy Crawford were way underweight. If you want to talk about an era where women were TRUELY beatiful you must go back to the Marilyn Monroe era of body ideal. Back to the days when a size 10 was not considered by str8 men to be "fat."

Also, while it is very valiant of you, i don't think you can blame the current trend of annorexic supermodeldom on "euro-fag fashion designers." If you want to find a publication where women are consistently portrayed with realistic, healthy, beautiful bodytypes, pick up a gay rag.

Im bi So i can admire a handsome man or a pretty woman

We're all weirdos - you'll be quite at home here - welcome.

I am no shrink, but maybe attractive men are a role model for you and real women are the real deal.

Just be who you are Dont worry about it Everything will sort itself out on its own

Guys, we need to be careful, very careful about distinguishing admiration versus sexual orientation. --There is a world of difference.

It could very well be a matter of just noticing handsomeness in another guy.
Or, as someone else noted, perhaps a deep-down need for some other male to just emulate or keep in mind as a role model. This (then) is not, repeat, not a same sex "desire" as such. But, how many men know this difference exists, uh?

There are reasons behind our feelings. They need to be explored. And, understood. Much unncessary guilt and self condemnation can be avoided if we guys do our homework behind our "responses" to other men.

I am attracted to men, but not typically to male models, I find everyday men much more attractive.
I also sometimes find myself strangely attracted to beautiful women, but only in rare instances is this a sexual attraction.
I am a queer bent weirdo, I know!

You can be as unsure as you like here - it's no big deal! I think it's a good thing to experience a state of uncertainty from time to time - if for nothing else, it makes one more aware.