"I'm not a top...

Maybe it's because you have such a hot butt it could make even straight guys flip? Who knows?

dear Novice_bttm,
they simply think that you are the cutest, sexiest, most adorable man, and they'd do ANYTHING for you! (Your hairy buns are, indeed, the site's deLuxe specimen!)

dear Lex,
your classification list is priceless, I'm smiling so that my balls tingle! Yes, having a horny top bttm as a live saddle can be a deeply moving life-experience!

dear Joytoyboy,
you have the most boyish smile and the most charmingly flirty & smart demenor, it makes you instantly lovable and fuckable:)

dear Headbang8,
your sense of understanding, compassion, comradery and acommodation is touching!

What a swell party this (site) is!

FinnMan

Hmm, that's mighty kind of you to say, but I'm not sure that's the case.

On the other hand, maybe I should post an application on my profile page, and test out your theory.

Fun Tshirt I saw on a (rather handsome, butch, bearded) guy this summer:

Front: You're NOT a Top...

Back: Until *I* Put You There!!

Classic!!

Think of me as your own personal Sit 'N Spin!! I do so hope you shoot while riding, cowboy!

I would not expect that you would just lay there, NB. As I said, that list is just for fun. To your second point, I don't know that I agree totally. I think some ass play can be hot, even if you never get penetrated. Lots of guys like to be rimmed but not fucked. That being said, I think it was just YOUR touch that made that guy quiver so!

Hey--glad you liked it-I can't take total credit--we've compiled a similar list here before when discussing this topic. Welcome to the site.

I guess the distinction of sexuality may be different inside a relationship than outside a relationship. For the sake of consideration, it makes sense to be up front with ones sexual needs/desires when communicating with a partner or prospective partner. What we would like to do, sexually, may not necessarily drop into neat buckets of "top" or "bottom." Should we even attempt to classify sexuality that precisely?

Classifying ones self as 100% top or bottom doesn't make much sense, particularly if one hopes to have variety and excitement with sexuality and self. Perhaps the terms are sufficiently ambiguous (the boundaries, that is) that assuming a "sexual role" as a top and assuming a "sexual role" as a bottom is really what we do. Beyond penetration, there are certainly attributes to either role that seem almost specific but might also be a little vague and negotiable.

I am a bottom guy. In relationships, that is typically the role that I play, but there are facets to that role that include control, libido, "topping" my partner, and scads of other social/sexual/emotional issues. I don't consider myself submissive. I sometimes don't consider myself a bottom. I consider myself sexual.

It's the emotional or sexual connection, the agonizingly delightful physical eroticism, the range of tender love to animalistic passion. It's good sex.

Novice:

Do you know that old joke, "What do you call it when two gay tops hook up?" "A Liar's Club meeting."

This is not so hard to fathom really. There are very few tops in the world. There are lots of bottoms. Supply and demand suggest that a little versatility is in order to get some action. So then the question is why are they hitting on YOU specifically. Well, I'd suggest it is because you are so damn cute... (You may substitute hot if it works better for you.)

Be complimented, not surprised. Then just say whether or not you want to play. If it ain't your thing, then it just ain't.

Some people are willing to forego their preferred role in order to make time with someone they desire.

Take it as a compliment.

You mean all this time I've been thinking it meant "Better Than Most", and it's not true??

Novice, you are just too cute! EVERYBODY wants you!

I've never "approached" you before, being a total and "novice" bottom myself!
If I were to approach you however, I would want YOU to do the flipping for me!!!

Oh, i shoot while riding. I shoot a lot while riding. In fact, you could say i'm a trigger happy cowboy! Would you be my trusted steed?

I'm a top...born attracted to men's asses. I grew up in a beach town and even as a young brat, I always eyeballed other men's asses in their tight suits. All of the serious men in my life have been bottoms, born with some kind of extra sensitivity in their anal areas, penetrated themselves with their fingers and maybe makeshift dildoes. That has been a universal report from every one of the above mentioned men (to me when we talked about it). I don't 'flip' because I have no feelings of sexual/sensual desire in my ass area, not because I'm on some dumbass macho trip. Conversely, the bottoms of my life have never been on some kind of dumbass non-macho trip. They always somehow seemed to spot me before I could spot them, mainly because I never could figure out just who had that natural thing, it's personal, subtle, and internal. I've had a GREAT sex-life!...and, btw, as Lex pointed out, there are some tops who enjoy a super rimjob without being interested in 'flipping'...believe me, I know. (mmmmmmmmmm)

I always knew that if I just waited long enough, eventually even I would become fashionable.

I see you've gotten the ball rolling by advertising your very fashionable pocketbook.

My favorite kind of bottom...