Am I a bad Person

Uhhhh, yeah they do ! Especially in an exclusive arrangement.

They don't count if I am getting it or receiving it !!

its ok cause its not you to decide if its right or wrong actally the girl should , she wont go home to the guy and crying tell him all of it anyway if it makes him feel bad so why worry. and YOU care ?? lol

All 3 of you are in the wrong imo

The 2 of you split up, that means both were single, both "fair game"
Your mate should have respected your prior relationship and given it some time and space before making his move, so he was in the wrong, but not by a great deal, she was single and free to make her choices.
you told him to back off you wanted to try and work things out, you can't expect to break up with someone and them to sit around waiting for you to come back (if she ended things then this is even more true) so your in the wrong for expecting him to back off, again, not much though.
She did no wrong until she involved you in sexual activities again, whilst still with this guy, she is playing mind games and screwing with the emotions of 2 guys here.
You are now in the wrong, you expect your mate to back off a single woman because you'd like a second chance, and might possibly one day sometime in the future work things out with her, yet you wont back off whilst she's actually with someone?

Well I should also point out that I have no emotional attatchment to her because of what happened and no emotional attatchment to him either. He was one of my best friends and when I was really hurting I asked him to back off, not completely just until we got things straightened out and if she didn't want to be with me then I would give him my ok and he could go ahead and date her and I would learn how to deal with it. Since he didn't I ended our friendship, so now that this is happening I don't care if he gets hurt. By the way, update me and her had sex. I am looking for a new g/f now and when I find one I will stop haveing sex with her but we will still be friends.

dude,all i can say is that i hoped you wrapped it up,because all 3 of you sound like you get around.lets be real would you have ever really given him the okay to go for her i seem to doubt that one.it's pussy man when it comes to that it will break a friendship up all the time.did you fuck her because you were horny,or to get back at him.she both played a mind game on you both.both of you fell for it.don't think you are putting one over on her.cause it sounds like she is using you for a good lay as well.if she is fucking you,and your ex friend.believe me you 2 are not the only ones.

Oh I would bet a big part of me banging her is to get back at him, I think he is a complete asshole. Even if there was a chance that I wouldn't be ok with him as one of my best friends shouldn't he try and respect my feelings. I was hurt and he used the things I told him when I was upset or angry with her to get her to not want to date me anymore. You know like the things you tell your friends just to blow off steam. Yeah but she could be useing us but I don't have any emotions invested in it so i can't get hurt so I am pretty cool with it.

All it means is that your ex is a hosebag.

While I may not totaly agree with what your friend did with the information he possessed, "All is fair in love and war" - I am sure you are familiar with this saying.

Would you do the same had the tables been turned? Will you ever do something like this - i.e., use the information available to the best of your advantage to obtain what you want?

Look at it this way: We're all bad people.

I wouldn't do anything like that, but I've done other things I'm not proud of.

Touche`

Hold it. Are you actually saying that something found on the Internet might not be true. Come on, you can't be serious.

Hey, let anyone that I think I'm exclusive with give a handjob to another and let me catch them, I'll re-evaluate that relationship on the spot/fly. Yeah, obviously that person doesn't care about my re-evaluation of anything, but it puts a whole new spin on how I envision anything that would involve the future, I'd do it for nothing more than for my own sanity. I'd be less apt to have a heart about anything that would involve her, she has just been downgraded from lover to something I would consider little more than a sperm receptacle to beat off into and that's if I could stand to be around her that long. It's not jealousy or anger, even being hurt, just knowing where you stand.

I didn't even read the OP, but the answer to your question is yes.

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