Male virgins around here?

hi. im a virgin. im 20 yrs old. only had one girlfriend wen i was 17 and we were together for 3 months and she wouldnt have sex with me, just a few hand jobs, and eventually broke up with me. i always thought it was cos my dick was to small for her and has only been recently ive found out im a little over average and have started getteing the small dick mentality out of my head. but yeah since then i havnt really looked for another chick, had a couple of blowjobs from another girl who was just a friend and who sed it was big, but didnt belive her. im happy just to have a wank till i find the right chick, and whack off about twice aday :P.
anyway, thats my sob story, lol would like to lose the big V but its not really a big deal.

I'm not a virgin anymore, but I had never kissed a girl until I was 17. My advice is simple: forget about it. It's not a big deal.

If you're at all like I am (which may very well not be the case), you don't want sex, you want a girl who loves you. Sex will come, but you cannot think of girls in terms of sex. Think of them as friends, because that is how they will get to know you. For me, sex was never a goal; it's something special that happens between two people who care about one another.

Of course, you might actually just want lots of sex. In that case, I'm out of my league...but good luck to you anyway.

I was a real late bloomer. I didn't even start puberty til I was 17. Had to take shots to get that part started. 12 weeks later the shots stopped and I was about 1/2 the way through it. At 19 or 20, I was dancing (Ballroom Style) with an older woman that divorced/seperated recently. One night after dancing she tried to have sex with me in her car. I was soo freeked out that my entire body was shaking (Like it's 20 degrees out and your in shorts and a t-shirt) and wasn't able to stop shaking for almost the entire drive home, which was about 30 miles. Nothing really happened except for touching. I actually lost my virginity at the age of 27 with another dance partner that I wish I hadn't had sex with. Less than a year later she devistated me by breaking up with me and forgetting to tell me and finding a new BF. I found out seeing him feel her up under the table at a resturant. It was BAD!! That's basically when I gave up on women and started to explore my gay side. I lost my anal virginity at the age of 29 to a wonderful teacher who broke me in very gentally and thuroughly (Spelling?) I have since been in 2 relationships with guys, one fucked me over pretty good and the other one was obsesive and posessive. Then I met a woman at Sea-Fair in Seattle and dated her for about 4 months before it died.

basically what I am saying is don't rush it. It will happen on it's own.

Craig

I'm still pulling for you to lose your cherry Slade, but those are awesome fantasies anyway.

re: OP: when I was your age I had had only one sexual partner, and after she and I broke up it was well over a year before I had another. I thought at that point I was 19 or so and my sexlife was only going to go downhill from there, which depressed me a lot, but I was completely wrong. I've had several fulfilling sexual relationships over the years since then. Don't give up.

Also, my two best friends are both my age now (27) and both virgins. So don't feel like you're alone, either. I know watching movies and TV and talking to friends, often it seems like EVERYBODY out there is having a ton of sex. But this probably isn't as true as you think.

Finally, if this post was actually a veiled attempt at meeting women (I know I made some vaguely similar attempts with my original posts under a different account years ago: "I have this big penis, am a great guy, why can't I get laid?, boo hoo etc.")... well, it's possible to meet girls here. You'll probably need to become known first before someone trusts you enough to meet you, though, either by becoming an active poster on the boards or spending a lot of time in the chat room. But altogether there are a lot of better places out there to meet girls. This site is predominantly male. If, on the other hand, you're just looking for support or advice, you're in the right place.

I found this thread and wanted to post, I am also very similar to the first poster, I am 20 Years old, I have never had a girlfriend, never even close, never kissed a girl, I am 20 years old and I went to alot of partys and had a good amount of friends, in highschool, i just never could find a girl that i could really relate to, i am 100% straight, i know alot of people say that you dont really know until you have tried both sides, i am very open minded but, since the apperance of females really attracts me, and i have never gotten excited from seeing another man i figure i dont need to really consider my sexuality as a factor.
I just find it stupid and imature how much emphasis is put on having sex, and I can stand how much some of my horndog friends talk about it.
Its funny to say, but I want to find the right lady for the emotional support and loving.
Am i wrong, but it seems to me it will be very hard to find the good girl i want that will be loyal and loving, in ths day and age, it seems there is so much 'impureness' in this world i just i also have wanted to avoid the stupid kiddie relationships that to find a 'pure' real partner want go on through middle school, and high school.
Even though i say this, i beleive i am still not old enough for a relationship, I have to much life ahead of me.
and i am not worried about having sex at all, i almost feel like it makes me stand out that much more... and dare i say it.... but i feel a little pride behind being a VIRGIN. and I am very much like abvavrg.
i just felt like writing this because i have rarely discussed this and it is refreshing to have somewhere to discuss it.

I am 22 and never really had a girlfriend. I am a vergin as well

What exactly is a virgin? No oral? No vaginal and/or no anal?

Well, I always considered being a virgin as never having anal or vaginal sex, I convinced myself that oral sex does not count in this situation because it is kind of an addition to sex, then again, you can also, theoretically, count the number of times you have anal/vaginal and oral sex and count that just like most people count the number of times they have had 'sex', which I presume to mean either anal or vaginal insertion.

that's the most wonderful advice i've read so far.

Im 29 and still a virgin. I hate it. Im not very good with women. Can anyone help?

I was a virgin until I married at 24..I masterbated often but I am glad I waited!

A club might be useful...

Seriously, though, treat them with respect, treat them as people, and show confidence, not arrogance. Show them attention. If you notice someone, and show interest in them, YOU suddenly become MUCH more interesting to them as a person. Be honest with yourself and them, or the lies will come back to bite you. Remember, even though their brains are definately wired differently, women are people too, and deserve to be treated with the same basic respect as anybody else. And deserve to be seen as more than a piece of meat. Be yourself, don;t put alot of pressure on yourself, and just TALK to them--they usually won't bite. If they reject you, or are nasty to you, then leave them alone. Everybody runs the risk of rejection, and you will get rejected. But you will find acceptance, too. No matter what you look like, there are people out there that find JUST that look to be increadibly hot. Not only models get laid, remember---average Joe and Jill do, too, and their partners usually are quite happy about being with them. About all I can offer, from my limited time in trying to, at first, find them for romance, and then just trying to get along with them, period.

same here i'm 25 and still virgin:)

I am 36 year old virgin.

20 year-old virgin.
Haven't even had a girlfriend yet. hahaha