Problem: friend...becoming hot

karmen · 08-14-2006

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Originally Posted by episcalo

So i've been with my GF for more than 6 month now, everything is going perfectly well: I love her, sex is great we have a really perfect relationship so far, nothing i could have dreamt better. I lost my virginity with her, she had quite a lot of experience before.

And now that every thing is just perfect, Im starting to find a girl friend i had for a long time really hot. Nothing changed with her, she really is hot and always has been. It's jsut me, I just want to have sex with her...and i can't explain why! It's just sex! other than that, i know a relationship is impossible, we are way too different, I don't even like her more than for casual meeting, she gets on my nerve pretty fast...but i just wanna have sex with her still...i can't explain that!

My GF is really beautiful. And i mean beautiful. even after 2 years of knowing her and 6 month sleeping with her, i still find her extremely beautiful.
I find the other girl hot, but not beautiful, and charm-less...it's pure raw sex attraction.

Im pretty sure it's not a rare case...

but i was wondering how you guys/girls handled a situation like this, what happened?

I know nothing will happen because when i think of how disastrous it would be for my relationship, how much it would hurt my GF etc...... but still it disturbs me to be at this level attraction.

Life experience has taught me that you will always be attracted to others. I believe that is very "normal".

You are very young but this may happen at any age. This particular situation is a test. Will you succumb to your hormones or will you be true to your current love?

After reading your postings, I would say that your current fascination with this "friend" is not worth the heartache that it may bring to you and your love. Let it pass. Do not socialize with this group of friends, if it is really a problem.

You may have the "hots" for this other woman but I didn't read in your postings that this other woman would even entertain the thought of sleeping with you. If she won't even sleep with you, then it is strictly a fantasy on your part.

If you are having to work to persue her, then it is taking away from your primary relationship. At this point, I would think that you'd want to be a single man so that you can date whom you want to date.

Good luck with your decision. There is an old saying, which I think applies, "A bird in the hand, is worth two in the bush".

Hugs and Kisses,

Karmen

Kyuss · 08-14-2006

It happened the same to me. I have a girlfriend from 3 years now.
There was this girl who broke with a friend of mine. She had a reputation to be a dirty girl but this never interested me because i always found her face a little ugly and never really liked her at all. I always thought my friend was with her for the sex she could give. When he get rid of her i was happy for him. Then she became a more allusive (sex jokes and smiles) and to be more chatty with everyone, me included.
I started to think about her and i ended up with a wild urge to bang her violently, don't know why, i'm usually very sweet but that drives me a little crazy.
I suggest you to do this: masturbate.
If you love your girlfriend like you say, and you have a great time with her, don't waste this "nirvana": you don't need neither the other girl nor the guilt i'm sure you'll feel if you decide to cheat on your gf. Even if your relationship is doomed to an end, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy the time you can have together as long as it last. Don't waste it.
When you'll have your house free for 3 days and you gf on top of you 24/day you'll forget everything about every other female human being.

Pene_Negro_Grande · 08-14-2006

I personally think that is the problem about when you lose your virginity to a person and then get into a long term relationship - you soon want to taste other fruits....I mean I would think that you want some comparison exactly like your girlfriend has had....Obviously she prefers you but I do feel it is normal to want to experience sex w/more than one person in a person's life time....And I am sure deep down your current gf will understand that....

episcalo · 08-16-2006

Thank you all for your input...it was really appreciated.

As many of you said...it's a temptation...as many things in life we could be tempted to. I'm way too happy in my current relationship to fuck it up for nothing. I'll stay with her and enjoy it as long as it makes me happy.

Thank you again :)

JackbytheSea · 08-18-2006

BANG HER! Hump her like your life depends on it!

Then say you were probing her poonanny for biological weapons. It works for the White House.

invisibleman · 08-18-2006

How about this, Epi-- Why don't you keep it neutral? Continue on with your girlfriend. Keep the fantasy girl at bay. No friendships or nothing. Make her one of many pinup girls in your mind. You can have the fantasy. There are many fantastic hot lovers. Yeah, you want to have them all. That is a fantasy but reality--they may not be like the girlfriend you currently have.

Then again, forget my advice because I totally don't exactly know what you want the outcomes to be. It is on you.

karmen · 08-18-2006

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Originally Posted by episcalo

Thank you all for your input...it was really appreciated.

As many of you said...it's a temptation...as many things in life we could be tempted to. I'm way too happy in my current relationship to fuck it up for nothing. I'll stay with her and enjoy it as long as it makes me happy.

Thank you again :)

episcalo:

Your welcome, darlin'. Good luck and stay strong.

Hugs and Kisses,

Karmen

Problem: friend...becoming hot

Originally Posted by episcalo So i've been with my GF for more than 6 month now, everything is going perfectly well: I love her, sex is great we have a really perfect relationship so far,