No More Crap Pm's, You C***s!!

I have removed my warning, because pictures of my pet and the current picture of me with too much make-up and my pet do not seem to invite the undesired PMs I used to get. My original avatar exposed a lot of cleavage, and men seem to think that's a slut uniform or something.

An example of a good message to send:

"Hello! I'm so and so, and after reading some of your posts I wanted to meet you. Can we talk about XYZ topic a little more?"

A bad example:

"Watz up delicious! U look gd. I wanna 2 bang u stoopid!!!!!!!11!!!"

I just want people to write to me the way they would speak to me in person.

Oh. And penises do not impress me, big, or small. I've seen hundreds. I've seen them all. The thing that makes a penis special, is my relationship to the man it grew on. So, I do not want to look at or discuss a strangers genitals in a sexual way. Clinical is fine. Pictures are unneccesary.

Thanks for starting this thread. I have been meaning to do it myself (I swear!).

One thing I want to add to what's already been said is that a lot of people come here to check out the hotties in the gallery. No surprise there. But when you send random PMs coming on to them (especially, um, freakishly sexual ones), you may actually contribute to that person wanting to take down their pics and/or leave the site. It's happened several times before.

There is already a place for any of us to make comments on pics in the gallery. Personally I think it's best to avoid PMing people who don't know you, but if you must - try being respectful and seeing if they're up for a conversation or chat. If you don't hear back from them, the answer is no(hello!). And to the LURKERS - From my perspective, you have a better chance of being able to talk with someone if you yourself post on the board and make yourself known. Just because someone shares pictures doesn't mean they're up for getting down & dirty, especially with a random person they've never heard of.

Please - DON'T PESTER PEOPLE with PMs. If people take pics out of the gallery, you're spoiling it for yourself and the rest of us. If the Moderators get too many complaints about someone, we may have to take action.

For sure all the ladies here receive lots of all kind of crap mp's and they may use the same one to send to all of us... i just ignore them and the insistent ones a put them on ignore.

But there are a lot of nice polite guys who mp in civilized manners too.

How would you have worded the title?

This is rather off topic, lol..but not really......Is that you in your avatar Gisella?! that looks like a fun spot to swim! Not because there's a half naked girl in the water...

because I love love love the lake. <3

i wish it were sunny today..*whines* :(


You mentioned being respectful, Matthew...lol which is grand advice, but many of these men sending out these messages feel they are being respectful. Most of them don't know how to talk to women correctly.

My inbox.

Since it shows that I've sent out 50 messages, it's safe to say that if you subtrack that many from the number in the inbox, the rest are messages that I've never responded to. That's about 100 in a month's period.

No is not me..but as you Lou Anna, i do love lakes..well i really love water - to swim, dive play, boats and etc.

Ha ha, I kind of liked yours.

Let me say also that even though this thread is in Women's Issues, this is also very much an problem for guys receiving PMs as well. (Hint to my gay comrades: If his profile says 100% straight, chances are he's not going to become your special e-fuckbuddy when you PM him to tell him how much you want to lick his asshole).

@ Heather - I know all of this is probably falling on deaf ears. Oh well.

Cripes. I have five. Total. Including the one reply I've sent.

Yours doesn't surprise me, though. It's just depressing to see that the internet will probably never change for the better.

Early on after I got a hold of the internet at home (and didn't have to worry about what sites I browsed, unlike the computer labs in college), I found an adult chat website (adultchatnetwork.com -- anyone remember?). I got on there, cybered pretty easily, exchanged a couple stories with someone I assumed was a woman, and started making a few chat friends.

Eventually, after seeing some of the other women admonish guys for sending them uninvited PMs, I decided to have a look myself. I'd log in with a blatantly slutty nickname ("WetTits4U" always worked ), say "hi" in the main room, and bing-bing-bing-bing... a dozen PMs would show up.

What the fuck?!? I used to want to get random PMs, but holy shit, I was glad that I didn't have to suffer like the women did. I also wondered why these guys had no clue -- were they really that stupid? Did they care that little about whomever they were addressing? Are women simply holes for their cocks?

Remember that Saturday Night Live skit where Eddie Murphy disguised himself as a white guy to see what "the other side" was like? It was like that, only not funny at all. Guys, you have no idea what women have to put up with. Remember those annoying kids at school or out on the town that you wished would go away? That's maybe ten percent as bad as getting hundreds of uninvited PMs, emails, instant messages, and God knows what else.

And all you women... please, please don't lose faith in the rest of us. The good guys (the ones that know that you're a whole person) are probably not going to invade your space. Don't hope that they'll notice you, because they probably know that you're getting swamped already -- you have to break the ice and let them know that they're appreciated.

You are HOW old and just figuring that out? That is your typical male - gay or straight... the person does not matter, good looks help but aren't necessary... as long as there's a warm moist hole to squirt in (for the straight guys and top gay guys) or a big hard cock to do the squirting (for the bottom gay guys) everything else is either negotiable or just not even a consideration.

My best PM came from a former member from Nigeria who needed my help in a financial matter. It only required that I allow the temporary use of my checking account.

I'm sure that my portion of her inheritance will arrive anytime now.

yes... I get pms all the time... I just thought I'd sound like some kind of pretentious ass totally stuck on myself if I started complaining about it in stead of just taking them all as compliments...

Sounds like there are contestants for this year's Darwin Awards and fodder for WebJunk 20. (MTV) IMHO...

okay, but let's be fair here. "WetTits4U" is not just a name, it is an invitation.

Heather LouAnna has a right to post sexy photos of her various regions and have a beautiful bum as her avatar. but that comes with it a certain kind of attention.

let's not vilify guys for trying to get a piece of what's on offer. I haven't posted any sexually revealing photos of myself and the most explicit PMs I have gotten were, "do you want to chat" kind of messages.

does Heather's gallery mean she should feel obligated to respond to requests she receives? NO. but it shouldn't be a surprise that they come.

lol... Nah, not just now, this was probably seven or eight years ago. That still means that I was in my late twenties at the time, so I was getting a pretty late start. But, my friends and I never talked about women like that, nor did we treat them that way.

And a guaranteed one at that. The thing is, it also worked when I would choose a plain ol' female name -- I think "Heather" was one of them.

We did it just to be mean sometimes, too. One girl and I would swap genders -- I'd pretend to be asking for men, and no matter what all the other guys said or how much trash they talked about each other, I would hook up with her nickname.

Fair's fair, I say. If they don't assume that women have feelings, then they must not have any, either. Or, if all they're thinking with is their dicks, then I guess the dicks won't care anyway.