I'm certainly no expert but can offer my own experiences. With soon-to-be-ex-hubby it got to the point where I was no longer interested in him sexually but would give in just to keep the peace, and I was always dry and it was usually painful.

With my current guy I am very attracted to him mentally, physically, sexually, you name it, and I have none of the problems listed above. So in my case it's not an experience issue but one of really being into the person I'm with.