Vix-

Just for information's sake, I'll explain. (Speaking only for myself.)
I've always looked like I'm half erect or more when I'm as soft as I can get. It's just the way I'm made, and I'm not the only one by any stretch of the imagination.
The problem is in other people's perception. I suppose it's mostly out of ignorance, maybe somewhat out of jealousy, but it's persisted since I was a youngster (maybe 10 or 11 years old). Believe me when I tell you that I'd prefer to stay out of public locker rooms and showers, but be that as it may, I'm not going to let that situation keep me from doing what I want.
Oddly enough, it's the straight guys that make the snide remarks far more often than the gay ones. The gay guys are at least honest about it, and in fact, they're usually complimentary as opposed to nasty. I at least understand where they're coming from, and that's a far sight better than dealing with some damn self-righteous religious nut who's already decided he's got me all figured out.
OK, I'm starting to rant, so I'll shut up. Just remember that it's other peoples perceptions that we're dealing with here, not necessarily reality, so take it all with a grain of salt. (Something I'm slowly getting better at.)

B-man