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Originally posted by Kat@Apr 6 2005, 12:12 PM
Actually (blush) my husband had to learn (and is still learning) to keep up with me! Even though I was fairly young (19) when I first had sex with him I was and still am pretty much a sexual dynamo. I love sex (live for orgasms) and can go at it for quite awhile. We are very well matched in the libido area but when it comes to the duration of sex...I can easily outlast him. That is why we like to use the dildos, his mouth and fingers first. I get as much as I want from that, then I fuck him any which way he likes for as long (or short) as he wants. I love the feel of his penis any day over a dildo, but I also have a really strong need to have multiple orgasms when we have sex. That requires alot of hard, deep and fast sex which tends to cause him to orgasm pretty quickly. We are deeply in love and want to make sure we offer each other as much as possible in ALL aspects of our life (including the sex of course!).
Kat
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Kat, that's wonderful !! :P
You definitely have me out-sexed....I can have sex more often than my husband and I wouldn't mind it at times, but I CAN live without it.
My husband was very sexually inexperienced when I dated him and then married him. Despit being very well-hung (or maybe because of it??) he was always intimidated by me sexually. He always felt he was luckier to have me than I was him (I disagree on that for non-sexual reasons, but that's another story). Combined with the belief that because he had a large cock he should be a great lover, well, you add that to a guy with self-esteem problems and you have a major problem in the bedroom. I've slowly coaxed him out of his shell in the 2 years we've been together.
Even now that we are married and having sex -- and I'm very happy with the sex we have, don't get me wrong (I would love for hm to be a better lover, but I'd NEVER complain about him or leave him because of it) -- he still has problems. Sometimes, when we're with friends, the talk gets around to some sex joking and I can always tell that my husband is uncomfortable with the bf's or husbands joking about how much their wives enjoy sex, how many "O's" they have, etc. Sometimes I'll help him out if it's at our place by asking him to go upstairs and get some refreshments.
He's just uncomfortable whenever the subject might boomerang to how much or how well he satisfies me. I think because his friends know he is well-hung, they assume that we're having the wildest time in bed. Again, I'm very happy with him and would never embarass him. But he's afraid that in those situations if we go around the room and ask the ladies how good their men "measure up" in bed (aside from the ruler), he'll come out looking bad. Thing is, he feels worse for ME than for him.
Like I've said before, not every guy is a stud, even when blessed (cursed?) with a large penis. I am happy he is very large as opposed to being the same lover with a smaller penis. But I know his obsession isn't with size, but in being like alot of his friends when they brag about their conquests or bedroom performances. I can only imagine the guilt or lousy feelings he has when he's in the lockerroom with them and they see his cock and just think he's the world's greatest lover. He's probably had that hanging over him for years and it's been my biggest problem in the bedroom since we started dating and then got married.