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Originally posted by Kat@Apr 2 2005, 09:43 AM
I totally agree. The few guys I had sex with prior to my husband were average in size. Even though at the time all of us were young (high school or college) one of the guys was an incredible lover. He just seemed to know all the right buttons! Anyway, I didn't have any idea how much size made a difference to me until I met my husband when I was 19. He was was ten years older and WAY more experienced sexually. Anyway, he is also a fabulous lover (does amazing things with his hands and tongue...;). That combined with his size just put me over the top. It was only then that I realized that for me bigger was definetely better. That being said, if he had been a real jerk I would likely be singing a different tune now! |
Kat, you and I are probably pretty close from what you say in terms of sexual experience when we met our future husbands. However, your husband had way more experience than my husband. I'm curious...was it a problem for him or you when you first dated or were married and having sex regularly? Did you have to get up to speed pretty quickly to satisfy him, or was he patient?
I've had to be VERY careful not to be too demanding of my dh as I don't want to intimidate him or make him feel bad because he was totally unskilled when we first dated. He's gotten alot more confidence, but on a scale of 1-10 -- 1 being virgin, 5 being average lover, and 9 or 10 being a super lover who leaves a woman begging for more -- I would say he was a 1 when we first dated, was up to a 3 when we got married, and is now close to a 5 (maybe I'm being generous :D ). Oh, I wouldn't trade him in, don't get me wrong, he always listens to my needs and gets an "A" for effort, and is caring outside of the bedroom. But I do look forward to the day when I can get him up to a 7 or 8 -- if not higher!! (hey, a girl can dream, can't she?? :) )