Do Older Women And Younger Men...

The largest age gaps in my life have been one where I was the younger woman, I was 30 and he was 41 (and we stayed together for many years in an open relationship).

Where I was the older, was a side relationship from the open one above, I was 32 and he was 24.

They were two of the three best lovers I've ever had. (The third was close to the same age as me.)

I do tend to be attracted more to younger men though, although it's not exclusive. I'm a young looking woman myself. Nobody can believe it when I tell them I'm 44! They think I'm in my late twenties or maybe early thirties! (I rather like that now, but it wasn't so fun when I was 18 and I looked like I was 12!)

I've thought about the life expectancy thing too. One of the reasons I wouldn't want a long term relationship or marriage with a guy much older than me is that I don't want him to die 15 years before I do.

I am 43.

My experience includes being married to a man who was just a year older than me, being married to a man that was 16 years older than me, involved with a lover who was nine years younger than me. I have briefly dated men who are a few years older and a few years younger.

I can tell you with the first marriage, I outgrew his intellect very quickly. With the second marriage, there was such a superior attitude with his age (among other problmes) that I actually have a fear of being with someone too much older than myself. The lover who was quite a bit younger, was probably the most gentlemanly, decent man who knew how to treat a lady. He also engaged my mind more than my two husbands.

With the dating experiences, I have found that I find slightly younger men more intriguing and believe it or not more mature. The men my age, at the risk of sounding egotiscal, seem to be threaten with my intelligence and social status. It is as if for them to feel secure they need someone that they can 'lift up'. The younger men seem to find being mostly secure and successful an attractive trait.

I am leaning towards adopting the Cougar persona. Not that I am not interested in men my own age. But to find them and have them secure emotionally and financially seem rare. Another important factor is I want them still living. Lets see, how to explain ... they have to love life. I want them to have the perspective I have, which is ... life is just beginning.

I know it sounds cliche, but I don't really think age matters...it's more about what stage of life someone is in...how one thinks...how one treats another, and the physical state of the person. That being said, I am usually attracted to men either significantly older than me, or men who are significantly younger than me. I fell totally in love with a man 8 years younger than me who made me feel like I was the most special and beautiful woman in the world but he moved away to be with his kids and I wasn't ready to make a commitment at the time. I have never stopped loving him and probably never will. I have never felt so deeply about anyone in my life and hope someday it will work out with him (he's still single). I was a little worried about the age difference with him because he is absolutely gorgeous, but I look much younger than I am so I guess that wouldn't be a problem as long as I continue to take care of myself. Our sexual appetites were both the same - very high...like bunnies!

very true.ive always dated older women.just like the experience!at 22 i was boning a 47year old.watta lay!

For many years I only went with much older women... I lost my virginity (didn't happen until 21... sigh) to a lady aged 48. I was attracted by her immense tits, initially, rather than her age. But that left me with an obsession about tits and older women. Since my 30s I have been unceasingly hunting 50+ ladies and slowly worked my way up to a peak of 76 (81 of you count blowjobs) but these days I also have a girlfriend who is younger than me. Maybe it means I have fianlly grown up?

I am 43, and my partner is 28. We have been together 5+ years. When we look at other guys and talk about if they are attractive or not, he is always looking at the guys around my age or older. We both feel comfortable with ourselves and with our relationship. Age is just a number, but I sure wouldn't want to be dating an 18 year old. There has to be a maturity level that exists, and I don't think 18 year olds have that.

Sounds like jealousy/envy to me.

I'm seeing someone 12 years younger than me but thankfully, none of my close friends are shallow & therefore, they treat him with respect.

I have been seeing someone about nine years younger and have realized that only the sex has been the most reliable part of the relationship. We do not see eye to eye on most issues and think very differently, and come from very different worlds.

I have dated both older and younger men. Though younger men often (though not always) have more stamina, they also seem to be more self-absorbed, less giving, thoughtful and communicative than men my age or older.

(Then again, perhaps that has just been my luck so far!)

My wife is 9 years older than I am - and she is TERRIFIC.

I wasn't going to answer this one, but I think I will.

A woman who has the "life spark" (the "zing!") to attract younger males will probably have that life spark longer than a woman who only has her youth to offer males.

THis brings to mind the story "The THornbirds" . The tycoon Mary Carson a woman who had lived by her wits and tamed the outback with money in the bank to show for it. Had survived by marrying a much older man as a young woman , a man who she didnt love. At the time the story starts she is in her 70's and has to her heartbreak fallen in love with the young priest of the parrish. No matter how much money, intelligence, wit , sophistication she possessed she could never have his heart. The most heartbreaking scene is where she tells him that her exterior may be 70 but inside she is still young with all the same needs and desires. It has been a major learning experience the older I get.

I once fucked a 45 year old when I was 30, her idea. I think she just wanted a change from her husband. Younger man, big cock. Simple as that. Amazing night though. Other than that I've gone from -20 to +4 in age gap and prefer women around 5 years or so younger than me.

My X wife was 45 I was 25 when we got involved it was the most Beautiful feeling I have ever had I want that feeling back with a Lady my age this is true I don't want to hear any stupid remarks about it I know what has happened in ( MY LIFE ) got it