having insecurities...

First off, I'm a 23 year old male, and this is my first post, so I'd like to say hello to all :) I've been reading this forum somewhat over the past week and it has tons of great info!
Secondly, my concern... I'd say my penis is somewhere in the upper-middle' range at about 7" long and 5.5" in girth, but yet I have a terrible problem with being insecure - I can't help but feel like its too small. Whenever I'm with a girl I am borderline obsessed with this, which of course makes for a worse experience. Some of my friends know about my size (due to a skinny dipping party) and often bring it up as being 'big', and my most recent g/f even told me I was the largest she'd had (although only out of 2 others), but I still cant seem to get over it :/
Anyone ever have similar problems, or have any suggestions?
thanks for listening (or I guess reading?), I look forward to making more posts in the future :)

I kinda feel the same way. Lots of people say mine's big, but I don't see it and I always think they're being polite even though i know there must be some truth to it. I didn't want to say anything because I thought it was just me being negative, but i totally get you.

I actually have the same problem as well. I've been told it's big by a few people and had a lot of others to compare to in the dorm showers. I just feel it's missing about a half inch or so to perfection.

Wow. You sound so much like me.

I can totally relate - I've had girlfriends tell me I'm big, make favourable comments about it, and empirically, I know I'm above any standard for average that I've seen. And yet, I still feel small sometimes and I still worry about it, sometimes.

In my case, it took time to (mostly) get over it. The good news is that you're 23, and considerably further along in the getting-over-it process than I was at your age.

As for what to do about it - well, sex shouldn't be entirely about your penis. Do other things, take your mind off it. I found that my anxiety with women dropped dramatically after I had helped them to an orgasm or 2

Relax! Dont dwell on this it will ruin your sex life .You are a good size You said your friends saw it and said you were big. Think about that.Enjoy life and have fun.!

Yep i do agree...it may ruin relationships.

Its not pleasant having relationship with a man that feels this way...deal with it anyway possible look for profissional help or whatever necessary.

Guys, seriously.

Here's something that ain't easy. But it's essential. Love yourself.

It's one of the hardest things to do in a world where you're told you need to be better, stronger, richer, bigger. But you know what? You're perfect as you are. Worrying about other people's judgements of you means you haven't actually judged yourself to be worthy, likeable, lovable.

And only YOU can do that.

I know it sounds glib, but you gotta do it. And it's harder than you think.

Several people have posted on this forum with the same feelings. No surprise that it's a hang-up. Reading through LPSG will confirm that you are bigger than average, that men especially tend to overthink size, and that if you are truly concerned about what potential partners think, you will stop worrying about size and focus on pleasing them physically and emotionally. But LPSG also has an unrepresentative sample of the largest guys around, so you have to ask yourself if it is actually helping your confidence or not.

In the end, if you can't shake the incorrect feeling that you're small, and it's causing problems with your partners, it could be a kind of body dysmorphia and you should talk to a counselor.

Thanks for the comments everyone :)
Yeah, you're def right, you gotta love yourself... but damn if it isnt hard; sometimes I feel that unless I have a 10 inch porn penis, its not big. I always hear that the averages are like 6ish anyways, but I feel like the bottom half is rarely mentioned by women or men, so my 'comparative size' seems skewed to me sometimes.
Thanks for the encouragement; it wasnt easy for me to discuss that, and I appreciate everyone being so open and helpful :)

7 X 5.5 will be plenty big enough for most girls out there. Hanging out at this place isn't going to do much to boost your confidence, though. and really, you ought to be more concerned with that than with the size of your penis. You're definitely not small, but women are going to pick up on the fact that you're insecure, which will be a turn off to most of them.

Yes! You have to be comfortable in your own skin.Be comfortable with what you see in the mirror everyday

The only way to solve the issue is to figure out why you're insecure about it. Has someone said something that made you insecure? Do you spend too much time on this board where there are a lot or truly big dicks? Who are you in competition with? If women enjoy having sex with you, that's all that really counts, not how big it is. Be thankful you don't have a truly small penis.

I think everyone has insecurities... How can anyone be THAT confident. Maybe the trick is, to realize that no one is perfect... Or in your case Hunter, coming to the realization that you are definetaly above average.. and more than alot of girls/guys will get to have in their lifetime.

Good luck buddy, and welcome as well.

Im having the same problem as you hunter. I have been told by several girls that i was big but i always thought they were being polite. I agree with the majority that believe that you should love yourself. I went through a meltdown into depression when i measured my penis corectly and found out my real sats. 7.5" in length and 4.5" in girth. But i have come to accept myself and confidence is what really turns my girlfriend on.

And what about this caused the onset of depression?