Confronting a liar

Last night, I went on a first date with someone I met on the internet. We emailed each other for almost two weeks before deciding to meet. He seemed nice, intelligent, cute (although appeared older in person than in his photo), funny, all that jive. My problem is that, as the evening progressed, he mentioned he went to his 20 year high school reunion two years ago. That would put his age around 39 or 40. When we began emailing each other, he said he was 34. The rest of the evening went downhill for me because I couldn't get his comment out of my head and I wanted to go home and check my email to see if I read his stats correctly, which I did. It says he's 34. I know I should confront him about this discrepancy and I will, but I don't really care about what he has to say about this. I figure if he's lying about this, he will lie about other things, too. And nothing pisses me off more than a liar. Am I being too harsh? Should I give him the benefit of the doubt? Any thoughts on this?

It's hard enough trusting people with your love and you time and your body without already knowing they cannot be trusted. I say bust him and move on. You are not being too harsh.

Be harsh. You get the best he's got to offer at the beginning.

I think that's a key point.

Unless you feel other strong reasons to continue with him, it's a bad omen to start under, and you would always wonder if you could really trust him.

Ask him what he is afraid of , and ask him why he lies about these things. If he can talk about his fears and come in to contact with his problems and is able to give a good reason for them, he would be less hesitated to speak about these problems. If he has other qaulities, and this story is the only "hick-up" don't be to bothered about it. People who suffer from mid life crisis syndrom related irrational thoughts often have fear of rejection.

I myself would ask in his face WHY he has to lie about it...and than move on...

Everyone has a fear of rejection. Some people just also have honor. If she wants to put in the time and effort to reach out to a fellow man and discuss this issue with him, I think that would be remarkable. I still think she should toss this one back and keep fishing.

If he's suffering from midlife crisis, then he shouldn't be trying to date someone who is 36 years old. I would think he'd rather be chasing some 22 year-old tail instead.

take a katana to your next date, hack off his head and redeem your honor

Hmm...

If he knew your age ahead of time why he did not came clean before the date ?

Mercuriabliss, if he has done that everything was ok...yes or no ???

Why he lie people...why? hmmmm...

Now i would move on more than before...

ROFLMAO!

Duly noted, Rock.

hehehe....

Dr.Rock u rock...a funny man u are.

You are not being too harsh. You should not give him the benefit of the doubt. You should not see him again. You should make an OKC profile.

Heh heh. That's a tad harsh. Give him a sporting chance.
Dress like the Bride (Uma Thurman) so he has a chance to run.

if you go to buy a car with a V-8 engine and find out the car you bought only has a V-6 you would be pissed off.

if you really like this guy then question him about it. and also probe the other things he told you.