Confronting a liar

I'd say dump him. If he lied about something so trivial, what else is he lying about? He may be a great and wonderful guy, but there are plenty of men out there who don't feel it necessary to lie about little things and are just as wonderful and great (if not more).

If you are a woman with options, than kick him to the curb. If you are really sexually attracted to him, fuck him, and then kick him to the curb.

I agree with RideRocket.

What is the excitement here? You thought he was two years younger than you, but now suspect that he's actually three years older? Good heavens, the end of the world.

To overgeneralize a bit - in Internet-land (and of course previously in newsprint personal-ad land), women go haywire as their own ages approach 40. They imagine that younger men are lining up for them (and some are), but are then disappointed to find that those younger men are, too often, childish types who pursue older women for their own psychological ends. Then begin the complaints that men are so childish.

So the problem for a normal-type man - one who is not looking for a mother surrogate - becomes acute around age 40. Far too many women of a generally appropriate age immediately turn off at mention of his own age. He doesn't even have the chance to demonstrate that he's not exactly dead yet. Hence the dissembling about age - a simple "get the foot in the door" tactic.

Personally, I consider that short-sighted - she has to know sometime - and think that deception, for whatever reason, is a bad way to start any sort of worthwhile relationship. So I don't resort to that tactic myself. On the other hand I can't claim that honesty is a successful policy either - I'm over 40 and live by myself, and it's starting to look like it will stay that way.

All this is independent of the problem of women lying about their ages - there seem to be an astonishing number of 39 year old women at loose ends, and one does start to suspect that some of them have been "39" for a loooong time.

In this case? If you're overwhelming offended by the fact that he lied, drop him. And drop any fantasies of righteous retribution as well. Just drop him, don't give him a hard time. And adjust your own expectations. If you don't, it will be even harder to do so next year. Or the year after that. Or ...

Sounds like you made up your mind already... but a lil curious why he lied about his age so just e-mail and ask him and if there is anything else he would like to come clean on one never knows...that being said it's all up to you if he is *sponge worthy*a bit of humor from Seinfeild Hell i'd make him work for your platinum pussy PS do you have a heart of Gold too?

I appreciate your input, but I won't be adjusting my "expectations" for honesty anytime soon. I'd rather live alone and be happy with myself than live with someone I can't trust. I'm sure there are plenty of women who lie about their age--i'm not one of them. I have no problem whatsoever with my age, that's why I don't lie about it and expect the same from others. Your sweeping generalizations and assumptions don't apply to me. And if I adjust my expectations, isn't that settling for less? No thanks, i'll pass.

dude, i don't wanna burst your bubble or anything, but i suspect that your age ain't the real problem here

People who lie about their age irk me. This is funny because last night I ran across a profile of the first guy I ever had sex with. He's 8 years older than I am and according to the age he has listed, he was 14 when he posed in Playgirl. He has no reason to lie, he still looks great.

I always say...if you're gonna lie about your age, lie the other direction. You'll have people telling you how FABULOUS you look. I have a tendency to tell people "you look awful for (age)" if they happen to be lying about it.

Sounds like you had a mediocre date with a typical internet loser. Move on without guilt.

I go through similar stuff like this all the time.

I think its better that you just steer away a bit.
It's better for you to politely walk away, rather than make a bitter situation for yourself and him.

Just from the limited details you gave, it seems that he wants a piece of butt, rather than a piece of life with you.

I know this is gonna sound tacky..but why would you tell someone that your trying to get a LTR with your dick size?

It's like "Oh im a stud - ive got a big dick"...

No, He's just a BIG DICK.

A 20 year high school reunion doesn't necessarily mean age 39 or 40. I was 17 when I started college. I will be 37 when my 20 year high school reunion comes around. People on the internet usually lie. Fact of life. I am an exception to that rule of course. When I invented the internet, I expected people to be truthful when using it.

I always fantasized that you were really Al Gore. Now I love you all the more for knowing this to be true. Although you sure ain't 33 any more, Al.

Dump him. Move on. Do not agonize over it.

Will you be my Tipper? That way we can have a Love Story written about us.

Unfortunately, I hear that Tipper only likes to have anal sex twice each year (Labor Day and Thanksgiving), and so I'm afraid I must refuse.

I could tolerate topping you only twice a year, as long as you topped me the rest of the time.