why does my b/f like seeing me with a large penis?

This past July 4th weekend I was at Cypress Cove resort and had been conversing with a couple over drinks at the bar and was invited back to their room for some more conversation and drinks- We were talking outside on the small patio of the room for quite sometime and the wife excused herself and went in the room- The husband asked me if I thought his wife was attractive and I said yes and immediatley wanted to know if I would like to have sex with her adding that she really liked well endowed uncut men _I ws taken aback at first but guess my libido and the liquor overcame my initial reluctance and agreed-He stated he would just like to watch -She seemed to enjoy playing with my foreskin and pulling it until i got erect and she would mouth the shaft and stroke me and pull and lick at my balsac but didnt suck me as they said they always play safe-I orally pleased her to an orgasm and then the husband handed me a condom and I fucked her missionary style hard and fast at both their requests -then doggie at their request which led to her second orgasm -then he handed me a dental dam to rim her a bit which she enjoyed and I was ready to mount her anally and was teasing the gate when she declined and just asked that I shoot for them whereby she laid on the bed and fingered herself as I stroked and shot =Other than giving a few suggestions and handing me protection devices,the husband just sat and watched, So it was a weird and interesting stay -I cant say I would go out and do it again anytime soon but it was an interesting experience

Ive got a fantasy of watching my wife with a well hung man. Although ive never watched she has went out with other guys and told me about it after. Im not very well blessed in the cock department about 4.5 inches long and skinny. The thoughts of her being taken by a big cock while i watch is definitly a turn on to me. Id love to see her getting that kind of pleasure. She told me the best sex she has ever had was with one of her lovers who was about 8 inches. I guess i would be cosidered a cuckold. Hopefully we will find a hung guy to have a threesome with.

Damn, Joe, this is so hot. And you and your g/f are so lucky!
I think another important aspect of WHY men enjoy seeing their g/f's with a big cock is that in order to retain our sanity, we walk around in a state of denial 90% of the time. Even those of us who recognize and acknowledge that size matters, our minds tend to migrate away from believing it too strongly. To some extent, we have to put the idea out of our minds that size matters to go on with daily life and to feel a basic level of self-esteem. Down deep, we all know that of course it does, and that it matters a lot, but we sort of put it out of our conscious mind. Part of us is always telling ourselves we are equal to the guys with the huge cocks and rationalizing that we deserve the woman for other reasons, etc. When we hear her admit that she wants a big dick (calling like your g/f did and teasing you about it) or get to watch how much she really wants it and enjoys it, and how differently she reacts to it from our average sized dicks, we suddenly have to admit that it matters to the point where she actually either needs it or can't resist it and is sort of overpowered by her desire for it, and that it is incredibly exciting. There is a built-in element of surprise every time you see her enthusiasm for it, which adds to the intensity of the appreciation. Also, we may still be equal to (or better than) the hung dude in some ways, but not in bed. When it comes to sex, he reigns supreme.
There's also something else that makes us want this: LOVE. Some of us have the ability to want our partner to receive this miracle of nature called the big cock because we know it is so intensely pleasurable for her. We put aside our jealousy and envy and vicariously enjoy her enjoyment. I know the feeling you described of being careful what you wish for, because that first moment I saw a woman I was in love with with another guy right in front of me going ape over his big cock, I had that same initial sick feeling. But while in my case I ALMOST wanted to stop them, I quickly surmounted it by thinking of how much it was GIVING to her by letting her have it. The sense of elation that followed was exhilharating.
There are also aspects of fear and risk in this--and the fact that she continues to stay with you despite the temptation to leave you completely for these irresistable studs charges the whole situation with extra emotion.

I wrote two short fiction stories based on my own real experiences on this topic at:
Frigid Girlfriend was Defrosted by Big Dick
Part II: Frigid EX-g/f Leaves, BigDick is Mine

I think that may be overstating the case a little. I certainly can't climb inside her head or presume to speak for her, but I feel pretty certain that words like "irresistable" and "overpowering" don't apply. Don't take me wrong, but that sounds to me more like the product of a male cuckold fantasy than a real relationship between adults. We are reasonably rational and mature grown folks (despite the sordid ugly details of the story ), and we each enjoy what we do for a variety of different reasons. There's no question that she enjoys the "stuffed" feeling of a big stud, and has told me so several times when we've discussed it. But she also knows that *I* find it incredibly hot, and she enjoys seeing me enjoy myself.

Don't get me wrong... I'm all about the fantasy. If I didn't buy into the fantasy I wouldn't do it. But when we raise the shades and open the bedroom door, the real world comes rushing back in and we become normal people again with some semblance of sanity.

I've received several responses and PMs about this, and they have mostly boiled down to "Aren't you afraid she will leave you for the big stud?" No, I'm not. It's just one more thing that we do to entertain ourselves and keep life interesting, just like going out to dinner or a movie, or taking a vacation together. I also enjoy a good roll in the hay with a really hot black woman every now and then, and she allows me that indulgence, even though she personally doesn't get into that. People could just as easily ask her if she isn't afraid of losing me to a hot Janet Jackson/Vivica Fox/Tyra Banks type because they turn me on in a way she can't. So the trust is a two-way street.

And if she ever does decide she wants the big one full time, she certainly knows where the door is (having used it several times over the years ), and I will be glad to hold it open for her exit. I don't want somebody who doesn't want to be with me, so I will be fine to see the back of her if she ever does make that choice. We've talked about it and feel the same on this point. She and I will both go on and meet other people and continue our lives as before. Life goes on. But if it hasn't happened by now, I don't think it ever will.

sounds like a great relationship!

I figured out a long time ago that, at least in sexual matters, I am very submissive. This manifests itself in a number of ways, as I have learned over the years, but nothing is more intensely exciting to me than the image of being with a woman who craves huge cock and loves, as part of her dominant nature, to "force" me to observe this.

I first realized this by happenstance when I was in a relationship with an amazing woman about 6 years ago who was a "self-described "lifestyle domme." About a month into our relationship, on a weekend visit to her place I came across an opened box of "ultra magnum" condoms. My submissive curiousity taking hold, I asked her about them and she at first was reluctant to say too much for fear of intimidating me too much. (Despite what you may see depicted in BDSM porn-ville, domination doesn't always translate into mindless, theatrical brutality with some leather clad/whip wielding mistress. But, I digress...)

She mentioned that she had been in a long term relationship with a man who was equally dominant. The more she described this man and his attributes--tall, muscular, sexually insatiable and, most significantly, massively endowed--the more insanely excited I became as did she. She showed me pictures of him (which she admitted she still masturbated to) and pointed out the obvious difference in size between us. (My girlfriend was nearly six feet tall and slightly curvy. In one picture, she had her hand gripping his cock and her fingers didn't touch and the portion of his cock left exposed past her hand was larger than what her hand covered. Taking my 5" by 4" dick in her hand, she showed me just how much bigger his cock was than mine.)

From that time forward, the image of her with huge cocks was a permanent part of our sex life which couldn't have been more intense. Altough she and I parted ways, it remains a huge fantasy. I've been able to experience this with a couple of other women, but never to the same extent.

I'd love to hear if others have had similar experiences. I'd be particularly interested to hear from our well endowed members whether they have participated in any threesomes, etc. along these lines. After we parted, my girlfriend and I remained friends and she told me that she and her massively endowed boyfriend had an "encounter" where she related to him how he played a big part in our sexual relationship. She said that it excited him beyond anything she had ever seen with him and that throughout a weekend of sex, my smaller cock was a big part of their sexual commentary.
Best regards,
M

Standard D that was an exceptional post.