Equation: Solve for confidence.

I am always trying to get him to minimize the size factor. I also tell him he would be perfect for someone built internally like me. I'm no freak of nature, so he can find more. And you're right. Unless he's looking for one night stands (he's not) most of his partners will really care about him by the time they see him naked.

I've been making him follow all negative self-talk with positive affirmation and correction of inacurate negative statements. He's improving already.

Damn, I wish I had a real friend like you, but nobody wants me.

Self image is all about the relation between the events we experienced in our past and our way of rational thinking about how to interpret these events. Negative self-image and low self esteem is mostly a problem brought on by a lot of irrational thinking. This could in some cases grow in to a depression or even suicidal thoughts without the proper help. People should be more aware of how fantastic life can be, if you believe in yourself

@ BronxBombshell

You're doing great on helping him like this. He should also try to read up on the Rational Emotive Therapy. Most bookstores are filled to the roof with selfhelp books using RET and Avator like psychology.

I'm gonna go outside and head south until I catch up with someone else heading south. I'll hug 'em and say, "Pass it on." Maybe it'll get to you this time next week. From what I can gather, you are friendly, and kind. You think faster (and wittier) than anyone I know. What an incredible mind! You have such a sweet face. You look so approachable. You look like one of those people who gives a quick nuzzle during a hug. You also look like the kind of person I'd stop to ask for directions. I have no doubt you will make tons of new friends very soon.

What you have said here is so very true! I have never heard of RET, but I will definitely be looking into it. I'll tell my friend also. He is theking of irrational self-hatred.

That's too bad. I know a guy, a fire fighter paramedic no less, who openly admits that he has a small penis. Yet, he has a Calvin Kline body that makes almost any straight woman or gay man in his surroundings want to fuck the shit out of him.

Of course, I imagine that it also helps that at 27, he still has the face of a spoiled frat boy and a gregarious personality.

Oh yeah, and he is also extremely confident.

If dick size was everything or almost everything then some of us wouldn't have time to be on this board.

I know, I know! Believe me, on MR there are quite a few guys just like your fire fighter friend. My friend is acquainted with some of them. He'll come 'round.

Thanks for those wonderful words. I'm going to write Hallmark and ask them to print a card with them just for me.

A couple of responses to your points.

If you find someone heading north, you can hug them too and have them pass it on. North also gets to me but it takes alot longer. (All points hugging is indeed called for)

It's very easy to think fast when there's ample time to do it.

As far as nuzzling during a hug, I'm not exactly sure what that is, but here a hug from me is like if I like you and you're not too old and frail or too heavy. I bend down and put my arms underneath your arms so you're forced to hug around my shoulders and neck. I squeeze tight and once I have a good grip I stand back up. Leverage works so that I just pick you up right off the ground. My friends all get hoisted like that. Some of the lighter ones even get swung around a bit. My gay friends back in Louisiana (which is where I lived for 10 years until pre-katrina) love getting these hugs from me. Chatting with one of them on yahoo the other day when he mentioned my very favorite gay friend and mentioned they had been talking about me. "Andy and I were talking about you the other day. We miss your hugs. Andy says 'He's my kind of man. Someone that can just pick you right up and hug you and make you think you're safe in his arms'" I thought that was a sweet thing to say. Interestingly enough, despite that line of thought, I'm still not his "type" which would be another thread in itself.

man, thats too bad..lack of confidence is a real mind-killer. but tell ur friend to keep the equations simple.

instead of P x (S x 10) + B = confidence level, try P = confidence level. ur friend should get his head in the right place, deal with the fact he has a small penis and move on. ur not gonna get anywhere is life unless u have OR act like u have the ballz(confidence) to take what u want. life's too short to spend whining.....
--good luck to him

This is a part of how he is trying to deal with it. It's not easy, apparently, for many men to see beyond their penises. Just check out measurection to see for yourself how some men struggle to get past not just their small penis, but the slights they have also endured because of their endowments.

My friend responds, "but of course I need a big dick for females to want me and I need sex to move on."