Sex On A First Date

Old joke:

Q: What do lesbians bring to the second date?
A: A U-Haul.


Q: What do gay men bring to the second date?
A: ... What second date???

I guess you could say I've had sex on the first date but it'd be hard to classify them as dates to begin with. They were online hookups. I know, me = lame! The only one that really was a date was with Nikki and I don't know whether that qualifies as sex on the first date or not. We'd been friends for years and hung out plenty of times. We just consider that first time we fooled around (not actually had sex but close enough) as our first date since it was the only thing that changed from our friendship.

I have a friend whose FOFD rate is extremely high, like 50% or something, it's unreal.

*Gives CR a spank for saying "lame"!*

He's a prude.

I'm not sure if this counts as a first date, but my partner and I had sex the night we first met. Call me what you will, but as someone else has said, sometimes you just click. We played safe and he spent the night at my place. That was almost 16 years ago and we are still together. I think it's one of those "to each his own" type of things. As long as you're both comfortable with it, I say go for it.

I dont feel ok with that... to share my body with a stranger.

Ok ok sometimes you feel very attracted but i can wait to almost explode later with more and more desire, i enjoy the desire building up thing !

Good chemistry that's sleazy which can be fun...

Society wants women to play games. I am incapable of this. If I'm on a date and we can't bear to end it, it's been 8 or 9 hours, or even just a few hours and no one wants to kiss goodnight and go home, if I know I would sleep with him eventually provided he can show me the paperwork I need to see, then I say, let's go for it. Why wait if we both know it's what we want. The one exception is if I feel something more complicated than a simple friendship might be building up. Then I'll wait to see what my emotions have in mind. The surest sign I'm really into someone is an outright refusal to have sex with him until he is mine.

Personally ive never had sex on the first date, ive never felt comfortable enough that quickly, so it would probably have been really bad anyway. Just a bit of innocent groping is fine by me

In many cultures still exist the seduction game that people play and its an art in my view. Men & woman play this game and is natural...is not a game of teasing and teasing forever but a nice teasing to built antecipation...both sex understand the rules being played.

"Hard to get" in one culture view is not the same as "hard to get" in another.

For some people in some cultures you may scare them if you talk about seduction...build up sexual tension, the wait and etc

I like challenges and men who like them too -its like a sensual dance.

I also f*cked on the 1st date, and yes i always checked the paperwork. In Holland we have got the latest Elisa 5B aids test, it's acurate at 3 monts. I had one girl once, who called her best friend from the loo on her phone, to discuss the size of me." Then i decided not to f*ck on the 1st date anymore. I kept that promise until i met my wife. (about 4 weeks later )

Although i have had the oppurnity to have sex on the first date i have always respectfully decined. Being big gets me enough attention I dont want and being labled "easy" will only bring on more. I normally wait untill the second or third date before i even consider having sex.

That isnt to say that i dont understand the both partners being horny and just going at it. I have felt like that many times but i always think of what the conquences might be and decide that there is no harm in waiting a little bit.

I'm fine with sex on the first date. I'd really rather know them a little better than that though... you know, maybe a couple dates first. I hold this in entirely different regard than just hooking up with someone because you both want to at that time and place. The idea of the "date" is that you're actually interested in them, right? So act like they're not just a piece of meat in my opinion.

Just know that after that, I may not be so inclined as to pursue a person if getting them in bed was that simple. I realize this is a double standard, but that's just the truth.