Help! Masseur with Roving Hands and..

Hi there, I've been getting massages every two weeks and now it has progressed into something unusual. It started out as just a great massage (big hands, strong and professionally trained) Then there was the occassional stray finger, which was hard to avoid especially around the ball area (larger in size). Triggering arousal.
Well then one week, the balls were obviously being directly massaged, I did NOT say or doing anything, it was the first time this happened, and well I liked it to say the least.
The following weeks, there was signifcant brush of my aroused penis by the side of the hands and forearms, and finally directly gently stroking. And how about this? Sucking on my toes, while massaging my feet! This was awesome. I'm not sure why he is doing all these things. The massage is still excellent, in fact better everyweek.
This past week he just blew my mind (and you know what else!) can you imagine that? Worked on it like a pro. This guy is really getting into all kinds of things. I'm still feeling like it is okay, because it feels so good. But my question is:
"Is it okay?" do you guys/gals think so? I am married 11 years and never experienced this before (this massage with extras that is). And what do you think I should do?
Thanks for reading through and for listening.

I think this person is abusing his power as a relaxer. He shouldn't be stroking your balls or dick/sucking your toes unless you are paying for that. As a married man, you could consider this cheating. If it bothers you, you should inform the man that he is not here to massage your dick.
However, two things,

1) if you like these actions becasue they feel good, talk to your wife about doing things like this and then reciprocate after she does it to you. It could add new flavour to your marriage.

2) If by chance you enjoy this because it is a MAN, you may want to sit down and have a think about your sexuality.

Good luck either way.

If you didn't want it, you wouldn't let him do it. As far as the abuse issue, that's a bunch of bs. He found you hot, he sent you a few signals that you seemingly had no problem with, he escalated, you accepted.

There might well come a point where you need to set boundaries. Be prepared to say no if you don't want it to go any further than it has. There's nothing wrong if there's no discussion about it, sometimes that can be really hot in and of itself but you need to be able to say no if he crosses any boundaries.

What you say to your wife is up to you but IMO, as long as it remains casual, then there's no need. A problem could arise when and if you stop getting massages from him. Then, if you start hankering for more of the same and go hunting for it, you need to be more open with yourself and start thinking in terms of safe sex and how your actions might impact your wife.

Until then, enjoy!

You could go to someone else. OR Go back and enjoy the session.
Boundries have been crossed already so it unlikely to change

If you like it, keep going. If you feel guilty or you don't like it, stop going.

I'm not sure what you're asking. From the scene you described, he went about testing the waters in a very deliberate manner and he obviously noticed that a) you didn't stop him so b) he assumed you enjoyed it. If you're asking if it's ethical, well, there are different types of massages so I guess it depends on what you're looking for. As a former massage therapist myself, if this is happening at a legit spa or massage center, this guy would most likely be fired if you said anything about it. If he freelances and you go to his place or he comes to yours, then there is no 3rd party involvement. In terms of your marriage/sexuality, as JeffBlack suggested, that's maybe something you need to think about. If you think it's ok to keep doing it because it feels good, you should ask yourself if you would be ok with the idea of your wife being fondled like that by a masseur.

It's perfectly okay. He likes it, and so do you. But the thing is, you have made certain promises to certain people, some expressed, others implied. You must ask yourself if you are doing what's best for your family. A man protects his family and puts them first. For a man, his family is his chief motivator. Ask yourself if you are a man. If you are, you need to know how your wife would respond to you seeing a prostitute. Essentially, this is what you are doing. You need to know how your wife would respond to you sharing your body with someone outside of your relationship. Hey, some women don't care, as long as you come home. If she would not respond well to this, then you are violating your vows, and not protecting your family. My mother always said, "I'm the most important person in your life. If you do something you have to lie to me about, you're doing the wrong thing." As other people became the most important in my life (I, and at one point a man I was going to marry) I applied that same concept to us. Grown-ups don't always get to do what feels good when it has potentially negative impact. Frankly, there would be trouble if I found out my husband was accepting random, blowjobs. If he did it without a condom, he'd be telling his coworkers he walked into a door.

Whatever happens in a Massage room
stays in the massage room !

If you like it... Do it! Inocent fun.

The only thing I'd add is check your bill, make sure he ain't charging for these 'extras'...

It seems like your basically asking for validation that this is ok. If your married and you know your wife would not be ok with this happening, then you know what to do.
If she is ok with it, which by the way your wrote your post, it seems she wouldn't be, then your obviously enjoying it and this guy is too...so carry on...

Keep yourself grounded and don't lie to youself about what is happening...thats what is most important

Anyjoe is right and so is soucerer. If you don't like it then just stop going. When I did process work, I used to have a massage each fortnight for my back and shoulders but couldn't help getting hard. I felt very self-conscious but one day the masseur said, 'relax, its normal, do you want me to finish it off?' It was a great way to finish off a really good massage and apparently it happens a fair bit (Can any one confirm?) I think you should stop worrying.

It really is pretty common.

Thank you! Thank you everyone for your input and thoughts.

First I want you to know that outside activities have always been accepted in our relationship. Also, there was not really a question of the man/man thing because that is a road I've been down before.

I guess I was just being naive about the extras in a massage. So now I feel comfortable with all that, it's going on out there and it feels good so.....

Again, thank you all for your input and opinions.

Let's move on to the next topic!

I went for a massage this evening. The masseur wore a T-shirt and very thin shorts. He straddled over my naked buttocks when he massaged my back. It was a classic case of frottage - I felt his rod between my nether cleavage.

Not being one to accuse blindly, I raised my bum for a better and firmer contact. Indeed, I was correct; he was stiffening but he continued to massage my back.

He then asked me to turn over, and massaged my pectorals. There is no need to describe my state of affairs - suffice to say I rose to immediate attention. The whole situation was quite unprofessional - he ignored my stiffy despite the fact that it was he who caused it, and when his mobile phone rang, he answered the call.

As a show of "displeasure", I grabbed his rod; it was semi-soft and was about 6" x 5". He continued to speak on the mobile phone, so I did what comes naturally, I pulled down his trousers (no underwear) and took his manhood my mouth.

My skeletal structure is on the small side, and therefore, proportionately, so is my oral cavity. It was no easy job trying to swallow him and avoid my teeth scraping his sensitive bits. Anyway, to cut the story short, he did as me for a tip afterwards.

And yes, I did.