Don't laugh.

Hi, I'm Mike.

I enjoy dancing, cooking, gaming, music, exercising, writing, reading, debating, art, and a plethora of other activities that I'm not even going to get into right now.

At least, that's my profile. Somewhere. Probably in my head. But it's missing something. Sex.

I am a virgin. Why? I don't know. I have many theories, ideas, but in the end it really just comes down to the fact that I really don't know why.

I've always been a very sexually oriented person. I enjoy doing pseudosexual things like massage, and am relatively good at them, but the act of sex itself is a foriegn, eerie idea that haunts my life. It never happened. Everyone told me that it would happen when it was ready to happen, but that time never came. I don't know if it's my personality or my mannerisms, or my habits, or even if it has anything to do with me at all. I'm lost, confused, and beginning to come up with reasons as to why I don't want it. And that's possibly the most scary of all, because someday, I'd like to experience it, however awkward and worthless the experience is.

Sigh.

I just wanted to get that off my chest, thanks for listening..

First, Welcome to the forum. Second, take some pressure off yourself. Sex is mostly chance, anyway. It happens when two people have chemistry, and opportunity. You just haven;t had both at the same time yet--the key word is yet. And it will likely happen sooner rather than later, so try not to sweat it too much.

Hello and welcome.

I'd say the reason you haven't given
it a go is embedded (no pun intended)
in your last sentence.

You seem to think it will be awkward
and worthless.

No-one's first experience is candlelight
and roses. However, the wish to
experience sex with another human
allows us to try it yet again and again
because it's, well...so darn delicious!

A big hello from rural Texas to the middle of nowhere!

Welcome to the group Mirai.

actually, i'm of the same mind as windy on this one

if you first resolve in yourself that sex is something 'fairly worthwhile' it might spark an interest in you to pursue it. sex just ain't gonna spontaneously happen! but please, please don't get me wrong, there's no rush! i'd rather you wait to have sex than rush it just for 'the experience'.

This in itself is one of the reasons I wonder about it. Everyone I know, have seen, or undertand has changed after they taste that nectar of human lust. They want it again. And again. And more, and more, etc. It really does change people. It's all men can think about. Quite honestly, it seems worse than a heroin addiction. I've gone without sex for 22 years, I've proven to myself I neither crave nor want it. The only thing that nags at me is my insatiable desire to experience new things. Beyond that, I really don't care.

And yet you're on a forum relating to issues of sex and sexuality. Who are you trying to convince that you don't care - us or you?

As for the heroin addiction argument: heroin is going to kill an addict in the end, and frequently it's not a hugely prolonged process. Sex, on the other hand, is non-lethal for most people (especially if it's safe sex) and has been enjoyed by otherwise well-rounded people for millennia.

I hate to say it, but the term 'sexaphobia' is at the forefront of my mind after reading your comments.

Mirai, obviously everyone is a virgin until some point in their lives. There are folks who post here who have waited longer than you. It's going to happen for you. I think the question is finding the person or people you want to experience it with - female or male, casual or in a relationship, or some combination.

Once that's clear, you will have some idea of where to put yourself out there to meet the right person/people. When you want to get with a fish, you learn to swim with the school. *insert stupid fish joke here*

Or just insert a fish instead...

please windy, no givin' the trolls ideas

Oops...you are sooo right, Gonnie!

Cancel the shipment of sea bass...

hahaha

Hey! What part of "Don't laugh" didn't you understand???

which is even funnier, because i thought that after i posted it ....

Good one!!!