Where else can a gay guy go?

Your right, but is not just that that is annoying, if something I really have a problem with is hypocracy. I have spoken to people that did the very thing I talked about. One minute their telling me how so and so discriminated against them, then the other minute their bashing gay people. I mean how can you complain about being discriminated when you yourself are adding to the problem. Plus what goes around, comes right around, you can't expect or demand respect if your not willing to give it.

Caramelloso

The truth is that gay people can go everywhere for the closest homo's living a straight lie(ooops I mean life) will do you anywhere. From parks to gloryholes. I get laid more in a closet town than I do in a gay welcome area.

To own the truth, it really should not be overwhelmingly startling to you that people, quite fervently, feel the need to project their insecurities upon others. Why do people ostensibly detest discrimination and then, in the same vein, demonstrate discriminatory behavior, you ask? Well there’s not simple answer to this, but I will try to give you the long and short of it … preferably the short:

In my mind, it comes from a place within them that is seeking acceptance in general; and the desire for acceptance, although not always, is usually a subtle manifestation of a lack of self-confidence. Insecurity is a flaw in our character not quite like anything else, not only is it a trait that industriously defeats the person it is resident in, it can also negatively impact many people connected to that person. How so? Again, people with insecurities quite often feel the need to project their shortcomings, inabilities, and utter lack of self-understanding on to others. Again, how so? Simply by highlighting – what they assume to be, anyway – the inadequacies of others.

For example, consider, if you will, our old friend: the little girl on the playground; I’m sure everyone has encountered her at some point when they were younger. She [I will call her Anastasia Beaverhousen ] will spend most of her telling the other kids not to play with you because, for whatever reason, you’re no good at playing. Then, after much hue and cry, everyone has resolved not to play with you … after all, with a name like Anastasia Beaverhousen how could she quite possibly be wrong about anything? In reality, Anastasia has decided to single you out to the other kids because it is she that is actually no good at playing, and instead of trying to solve her own issues, she masks them by showcasing yours.

This is no different from people who relentlessly bash homosexuality. Experience has taught me that that people who develop vehemently antagonistic views of homosexuality, scarcely have confidence in their own sexual orientation and will, occasionally, be closeted homosexuals themselves. (If bold enough, one could even argue that the amount of bashing done is directly proportional the ‘degree’ of their sexual uncertainty. Meaning: the more they bash, the more sexually uncertain they are … but that’s neither here nor there and, right now, will be dismissed as silly talk ). Nevertheless, a lot of this stems from people’s need to conform to the societal status quo too, which in many places still has a big red slash through being gay.

Altogether, I think the solution lies simply in our willingness to venture out from our corners of the world and be accepting of one another. Shake hands, smile and know that we all have our faults – and aren’t different from each other in that regard. And this way, Anastasia Beaverhousen will receive a time-out on the playground.

Anastasia Beaverhausen indeed.

*applauds*

Longest post from GoneA ever...

hardly ... i have a few lingering around.

GoneA--that was an incredible post, man.

Young, sexy, intelligent and UNSURE.

hmmMMMmmmm...

GoneA your absolutely right, and I agree with you, you summed it up perfectly people are usually insercure about their sexuality if their bashing away at gays. And I have experience this myself where I knew men that would talk about gays then turn around and flirt with me and even ask me for sexual favors and Im like WTF lol but seriously is so ironic that the ones doing the bashing are the very ones that have issues with themselves and try and mask it by focusing the attention on others.

Caramelloso