Primarily for other African-Americans, but input from others welcome...

Shouldn't you be more than just a member by now? like a photo verified one?

To anyone being rejected because of penis size. You live in a place with way too many large penes, and if that's the case you need to find out how they are getting theres and jump on the bandwagon.

You too?? I hate melons of all sorts.

Size queens can be some nasty bitches and people, in general, are sad.

That being said, the sad reality is that these stereotypes cut both ways: People at once expect you to be huge and are secretly hoping that you aren't (it IS a myth afterall). It's a tough place to be in.

I have played with men that were lager than me, and smaller than me, I have two close buds (both white) who are much thicker than I am (7" and 7.75" around). Instead of getting all sadiddy about it, we treat is as a great thing that brings us closer in the face of stereotypes.

I will say this, there is nothing like fucking the living daylights outta some stud that thinks he's the hottest shit walking because his dick is bigger than yours or because he thinks you need 11" to make a person feel good.

I think that one thing you (and all men), myself included) can do is to try to reach a point of true total comfort with yourself. When you walk through life pleased with what you have and are, people can't make you feel uncomfortable with thier issues.

Walking away was that shithead's loss.

Thanks for continuing to chime in everyone, it's great to see all the points of view.

Bananas Foster sounds good. I made that for my ex once. I still have my bottle of 99 Bananas. Now I need a bottle of Bacardi. Pecans. Homemade Frozen Custard. Sugars and spices. Oh, course, de bananas!!!! Bananas Foster was a dessert originated in New Orleans. Named after a NOLA official that frequented a French/ Southern restaurant (I forgot the name of the restaurant--I want to say it is Gallatoire's.) The chef made that dish up and served it to this official and he raved over it so much--the chef dubbed it Bananas Foster.

If I do come up there, I will coming via Underground AmTrak. I believe that they will be having fried chick'n n' waddermelun, oker, greenbacks n' slabs (collard greens and ribs), grits and cheese biskits on the way up so I think the other fine things you were going to have would be fine for me. Hehehehe.

I hope you enjoy culinary school. Sounds like fun to me. Get good grades and work for Oprah or Donald Trump as their personal chef.

It's probably a multitude of reasons, but during the formative ages of 12-17 when a white slut learns to be a slut they often overdose on white meat; it loses its appeal. They have to move on to more meaty dishes. They've idealized a certain hue of dick and after a while this concept becomes entirely inflated to irrational extremes. They just about literally worship that particular hue of dick, which validates their sluttiness in their minds because it's of a higher grade, outside of their assumed default class.

The myth pretty much only hurts African-Americans. If he's average, someone will be disappointed. If he's big, he'll only be meeting expectations.

Inkubus - I don't know your exact numbers, you're above average. Ditch the size queens and find a nice homo who's looking for a person, not just a big dick. Then use your size to your advantage.

btw - You're tied with hickboy for the cute animated avitar award.

Inkubus,

I strongly recommend the following book. It's all about the expectations on African-American men that they be hugely hung. It's a good read.....

Hung : A Meditation on the Measure of Black Men in America (Hardcover)
by Scott Poulson-Bryant

It just came out a few months ago and is all about what you are struggling with.

One of my my closet friends is a black Dutch guy and he is not as well hung as I am and he often jokes that he wishes he could just borrow my dick for the night to match people's - especially American guys' - expectations.

So I've heard first-hand the kind of pressure you are talking about...

One thing that the book's author writes about frequently is how gay men often say " what a big, beautiful black dick" whereas they never say "what a big beautiful white cock."....

THe latter I have heard from a few African-American men (a couple of times I suspect as a joke)..but he's right: I hear "huge dick" or "great dick" or "enormous dick" but the color of my skin is never mentioned.....Gives one pause for thought

I have no idea if african american men are supposed to be HUGE, or not. The only "stereotype" that I have heard has been more along the lines of "the average flaccid size of the african american male tends to be larger than the average flaccid size of caucasians"

I ran that through babelfish... In "14 year old", that translates to "Black guys are fucking huge!" And that's where it all starts.

Since it's my favorite dessert, I have a little info on it . The restaurant was Brennan's. I'm hoping it survived all the mess down there, since one of my goals is to explore the city. Just about wet my pants about the Underground AmTrak (and we think there's no progress...). Dammit, now I want ribs... Curse you all!!!!! (shakes fist at heavens)

Absolutely priceless....

Oh, I try. I work really hard to be decent, take care of myself, improve, be a good son, and maintain a positive outlook towards mankind. Obviously, I still all too frequently run into too many people who are only interested in the screen-saver I project, or who simply paint a stereotypical image over me, when neither is remotely close to who and what I am. No worries, some day he'll come along . Of course, then I plan to make him so glutted with sex, pleasure and food he won't be able to leave.....

Thanks for the kudos on the avatar, but I must pass the credit to the unknown creator of such; it was just my good fortune to find it!

Thanks for the reference, I'll have to look that one up. Your other comments now have me reviewing how I compliment other men, and if sub-concious racism is sneaking in. I enjoy men of all shades, and I like to think that I focus more on the inner person, since that's how I'd like to be treated. When there's an eclipse and I get another "date" I'll have to set a part of my mind to monitor my vocal interactions.