Confidence with Girls

I just wanted to publicly thank everyone for their advice so far.

I also wanted to tell you that I met a nice girl at a coffee shop today.

We talked for about 20 minutes and I asked if she was seeing anyone. She said not really, then she asked if I had a gf. I said not really, then she asked if I had a bf, and I said not my style. I think I managed not to blush but i don't know where that question was coming from and it knocked me off balance.

She wouldn't fork over her # but she gave me her e-mail. I hope it's real.

R

That's a great start- and if nothing comes of it, just remember- as I'm sure you will- that you enjoyed talking to her, and that nothing bad has happened, so you can approach someone again with less anxiety.

Thanks!

Actually, I have met three girls in the last two weeks.

I scored head from one. She wasn't very good at it, but I was able to cum anyway and she swallowed which was hot. She had a shaved pussy and I was thinking about going down on her. Lost my nerve.

I really like her roommate who is model quality hot, but she has a boyfriend who is also really good looking. I would do a threesome (or maybe a foursome with the other chick) in a minute if I could somehow set it up without getting smacked down.

When I was on the way home from my date with her, I went into a bar cos I didn't really want the night to end. This older guy in a suit bought me a drink and paid for it with a $100 bill. Later he offered me $400 to come back to his place, but I said I wasn't gay. I gave him my e-mail though.

I was thinking afterward it would be nice to have an older woman offer me money and show me the ropes. Oh well.

R

I would be upfront about being Bi. Saying "not my style" says to her that you are straight. Personally, I would have suggested "I don't have one of those either". It leaves you honest.


That said, I don't know why being bi wouldn't attract chicks. My BF and I have girls ask to join in with us all the time and when we turn them down, they ask to watch.

I agree with Drewbert about giving them the wrong idea about your sexuality, and I have three things to add...

#1 - You made a good choice - Don't be a whore. You'd probably regret it later.

#2 - It's good to have fantasies, but the group sex thing is probably going to be too much. If you lost your nerve during one-on-one oral sex, the last thing you want is an audience.

#3 - HangX made a good point. Don't put yourself through this hoping you won't end up gay. Either you're attracted to women or you aren't. If you aren't, give up before your mind is warped beyond repair and your looking for tall buildings to jump from.

My biggest key to confidence is to look at rejections as successes - I know that seems a bit off when you read it, but stop and think about it: by getting rejected, you still went up, had a conversation with a woman you didn't previously know, and gained more confidence for it. Besides, you'll gain most of your luck out of around 20-30% of the women you talk to, anyway....at least thats around my percentage.

Hey Ry,

Not only do strangers think you're gay, now they think you're a gay hooker! You should roll with it. You would have next year's tuition in a week.

Seriously, maybe you should stop wearing tight t-shirts and low riding jeans. You're advertising too much of your fine ass.

Your booty call boyfriend,
Davyd

You're 18 years old, so don't worry... I think I was about 21 before I got a great blowjob. The ones I got in my teens weren't great. Enough to cum, but that's it.

Hayden Christensen isn't gay!He denied it in the past and now he is sick about it to do it again and again!

Montroyal88 I wish you luck to find out which sexualty you prefer!

I've had guys ask me this question of how to change how they come across to women. My answer is I think most of the time women will view you the same way you view yourself. How you view yourself comes out in how you act and we are often really good at sensing that. So if girls are thinking of you as gay or a stoner, consider the possibility that they're right. And put your attention on figuring out who you are, because you can't expect others to know that if you don't.

This really hits the nail on the head, I view myself as a nice, caring, considerate fellow. Which explains why I always end up in the "best guy friend" slot instead of the "call for sex" list. Though honestly I wish I'd end up on the second list sometimes.

Let them get a look at your eyes.....you'll drive them crazy!!

To attract anybody you have to uncover your soul.

For example, when you talk to a girl, listen to her, and try to understand what she wants from her life, how she feels, what she loves and what she hates.

Every word can be a key to her heart.

Also very important is to open yourself to her, she has to feel that you trust in her, and that your heart has a safe room for her.

Good job, man. Yeah I'm pretty confident when it comes to sex but when relationships get involved I'm not as good. Working on it though. Although I'm not looking for a serious thing right now.

Stop caring about that they think...and they will come...

...OB