GreenEyes: I know for me it is difficult to remain friends. I am finding it difficult right now with my best friend/lover (long distance and a long story to boot) It is like part of me wants to hold on but in doing so I am not allowing myself to open up to new experiences.

My ex fiance (another long story) I couldn't remain friends. Then years later we bumped into each other for a reason and he suggested we hang out and do the sex thing. Red lights in my mind. Realize I was tortured for three hours on how I tore out his heart, how he is over me, and can we have sex together, with can you set me up with somebody? Again torture but something I suppose I deserved for canceling the wedding four months before it happened.

So what would stop us from digressing backwards if I choose to have him as a sex thing? An old saying in the past that seems to hold true "There are reasons why exes are exes."

Sorry 7 you both couldn't make it work but I understand it in a way.