Sex with a Buddy? (Other thread not updating...)

[viking]

What if it's not about just blowing some other guy.

I've had some great, exciting, very loving and emotionally bonding times with my best buddy. And yes it involved sucking each others dicks. But it also involved intimacy. And THAT is worth having!

[Sorcerer]

Originally Posted by GoneA

nyc8, my friend, this venture you're willing to take is quite risky. clearly, there isn't any hard and fast answers on how to approach this ... issue. if you're asking for my opinion, i say leave the friendship as friendship. i've seen all to many times people (whether they be heterosexual or homosexual) try to take friendship to "the next level" and, in the end, they end up wishing they had drawn the line between common sense and fantasy. that is not to say the same shall be true with you - it may work out according to how you want it too. however, i'm a better safe than sorry kinda guy, therefore, i say leave it alone and keep this dream of yours in the theatre of mind.

For once I agree with GoneA. Unless you're seeking a long-term relationship with this person (and you're not) it will almost certainly ruin your friendship. If you want to blow a guy I suggest you look elsewhere. It sounds like you're looking for a notch on your bedpost and want a guy you're most comfortable with. I almost guarantee you could find the same level of curiosity with someone else.

[latin_male83]

yeah my situation was different. i had a friend and to be honest we'd seen each other naked and we'd even had 3somes but it wasnt until we stopped being friends that i had a fantasy about him. i wondered about that kinda stuff, luckily since we werent friends anymore i didnt have to worry about it as to whether it meants something or if i was bi curious or anything. ... "luckily"...

[xtrathickdick]

Well, if you can't fuck your friends, who can you fuck? Strangers? I think not!

[GoneA]

Originally Posted by Sorcerer

For once I agree with GoneA.

oh that's nice.

[djpeh]

Originally Posted by viking

What if it's not about just blowing some other guy.

But, what if it is? It sounds like he's been fantasizing about it a *LOT* of the time. If nothing else, he might want to try jerking off to fantasies of blowing other guys--it that's a turn-on, too, then maybe he might consider moving on to do it for real.

If it's not so hot or interesting, then it might just be that it's this one guy for whom he has those kinds of feelings, and in that case, I agree with the folks who say that, since the friendship isn't nearly as sexual as it was, it's best to let sleeping dogs lie.

[moishglukovsky]

I find it hard to believe that a guy with whom you've JOed for years and years and years would be shocked or upset by your asking him if he'd like to go further or would even consider going further than just jerking off. This isn't like you're buddies from the softball team, after all. And you ARE adults.