Valkyrie: All - I find this an extremely interesting discussion - I like seeing the different viewpoints. It helps me to better understand where people are coming from. Thanks for everyone's input.
- wvvalady -
you got my intention entirely right. Either choose to wait with sex because it's in your personal beliefs (and then I would assume it goes for all types of sexual activity, not just the penentrating variety) until you are married to that special someone, or have an honest, sexual relationship with the person you love - regardless of marital status. It's the inbetweens that I have a hard time with (and find a bit hypocritical) - "I'm not having sex until we're married, but we're doing oral sex, we're getting undressed and we're masturbating one another until orgasm. I'm really dying to try penetrating sex, it's so hard to wait, I would like to but I can't - I have to save myself for marriage.".
- John -
As already pointed out - the comments are most certainly not aimed at you personally. Yes, you made a comment about "too intimate" - but I've heard that comment from countless other people as well, not only on this board. And it was never implied that you spoke about exploring other avenues of sexuality - to my knowledge I've never seen any of that in your posts, also confirmed by what you yourself is saying about your relationship.
I have absolutely no problem with people choosing to do something because it's in their religious belief (abstaining from sex, observing a sabbath, praying, abstaining from certain kinds of food etc.). As long as you are true to your beliefs, as long as those beliefs are in line with what _you_ personally find OK and as long as you don't force your beliefs upon other people it's perfectly alright. Live and let live.
Your religion seems to be very important to you and you try to follow what is laid out as OK and not OK to the best of your ability - kudos to you for that. As said above, it's the inbetweens that I have problem understanding. And in retrospect I agree with you - kissing is also a sign of affection, not necessarily a sexual act in itself.
/Val |