Valkyrie: Maybe it's a cultural issue - but I've never understood the whole thing about "waiting until I'm married"...

If you have a good relationship, if you feel comfortable with the other person, if you want to explore each other, if your body is aching for it, if you take the necessary precautions as to pregnancy/STD's/etc - what's the point in not doing it other than fulfilling some stereotypic expectation that you should "save yourself until that day"?

Sorry if I sound harsh, but I guess you might say I have something of a problem with what seems to be society's expectations that sexuality (especially women's sexuality) is something that should be controlled, something we should be ashamed of, something that is "reserved" for only that special someone.

What if you _do_ get married and realize (too late...) that you are on entirely different wavelengths when it comes to sexuality - do you get a divorce or continue less than satisfied for your entire life? And no, I don't believe you can know this without actually being together with the partner in question - talking is one thing, experience is another. Sex is definitely not the only thing keeping a relationship together, but it is an important part of an intimate relationship.

Frankly - I don't understand it...

/Val