Is it hard for a woman to go back to a small dick?

Valkyriessong I am sorry that your time at that other site has caused you to doubt yourself and your real world experiences. As a man I can assure you that the concept of “settling” as you have described is not the norm. Any guy who takes that attitude is woefully immature. Usually guys who disdain any woman but the “hottest” supermodel type are emotionally stunted and hopefully grow out of it by the time they are about 25 years old.

Besides, men who “settle” don’t necessarily have to have a particular size penis to do so. A man could as easily proclaim that with his good looks, wealth, or power or position he could “do better” than the woman he is with and that he is settling until something better comes along. Choosing a man based on penis size is not going to solve the problem you mention. The solution is to find a man who is a real man, not a capricious boy, but a man with character whose word is good and can be counted on not to play games. In short, an adult who takes responsibility, not just drifts from woman to woman trying to prove he is a man by how often he uses his penis and whether the woman of the hour likes it or thinks it is big enough.

None of us is perfect (and never will be) and when we realize this we grow up a lot. Men are not perfect and women are not perfect. Perfection is a fantasy that is packaged and sold by movies and the media. The fact that these comments you refer to were ones you saw on message boards means they could easily have been posted by high-school age kids. Don’t take them seriously as indicative of real men in the real world.

Your comment about penis size as a male concern is accurate to a degree. Rightly or wrongly we attach a lot of importance to the meat between our legs. However female acceptance of our bodies goes a long way towards mediating that concern, relieving our anxieties and getting us off the obsession. Thanks to the accepting nature of most women, I believe that most average men don’t have the overriding overt obsessive fear that you saw at the other site. Would most small men want to be average or above? Sure. Would most average men like to be large if someone could wave a magic wand and make it happen? Probably-just like none of us would turn down a lottery win. But knowing that you can be good in bed without being huge puts it all in perspective.

I’m just sorry that you experienced the hard-core bitter folks who were resistant to encouragement and reason. Their callous comments seem to have done some damage to you and made you doubt yourself. I hope that to the extent my words can buoy your self-confidence that they do so. Maybe someone else here can also assure you that despite your suspicion I doubt that anyone you were with was settling.

Very well said Aplus. Exactly how I feel.

In surveys most guys say they would pass by a really hot looking woman
and talk with average or below average looking women. Why? Most guys don't have that kind of confidence...regardless of cock size, looks, body type, etc. They don't think the far above average woman would give them the time of day. It takes a lot of "desire" for me to attempt to converse with a woman. That doesn't make me hate women, though. I wouldn't get mad or threaten if a woman (or man) laughed me down. I would be hurt but that wouldn't make me hate anybody. I don't think you should let a few "woman haters" get you down. There has been some disrespect toward the
ladies on here before, too. This place wouldn't be the same without our women folk.Valkyriessong, I do hope you won't carry a grudge against men, average or otherwise, due to the few who cause you this hurt. I have read a lot of your posts at measure (I never belonged there...just read) and I think you are a very kind person. I still think you are very attractive too.

I haven't had a scenario such as you describe happen to me in well over 12 years.

I'm studying the exact same pick up guides PUA men study precisely so I can overcome my fear of approaching. I can relate a bit more to your scenario than perhaps I've let on in my past posts here. Looks like I'll have to do the approaching since virtually nobody and I mean NOBODY ever approaches me.

Does that mean I'm a War Pig (aka Fugly Girl as PUAs put it)? Possibly. The evidence sure seems to be pointing in that direction. Am I going to waste my time getting upset about it or blaming men and calling them shallow for wanting prettier and younger women than me? No, there's really no point in it. Just as I wish all guys would learn to accept and like what they have to offer women.

There's one other reason I'd consider converting to Size Queenism than just to escape negativity. I've never in my life had a vaginal orgasm of any kind - whether G-Spot, CDS or any other - and just once I'd like to know what that's like before I die. I by no means have a small vagina. A 5 inch guy can hit a small vagina woman's back wall when she's fully and completely aroused. I need a guy who's at least 6.5 inches for that. Which rules out the 'average' guy. I'm too big for well over 50% of the population of men. I don't know if 6.5 is considered large here on LPSG but that's what I'd need for at least a halfway decent shot of experiencing a CDS orgasm with a man.

I suppose once I get away from the toxic attitudes at Measure (or some posts here) I'll be able to relax and start trusting men again. But right now I've had Mega-Doses of Women-Hating and it's just rocking my overall world-view of men.

If more men like all of you post here I think I can begin to trust again.

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From Fast Seduction's Acronym list

WARPIG - An UG (Ugly Girl) of rating 4 and under. (on a scale of 1-10)

I know how you feel. Women don't approach me either. It is a bit dissapointing to say the least. I wish some would at least show interest.

Any man (or woman) who thinks you are fugly, needs to see an eye doctor as soon as possible, 'cause they are blind!

I nearly stopped coming to any sex discussion site because of similar things to you VS.

I think that guys who hate women because of their penis size, actually hate themselves rather than women, but transpose that hatred to those who they feel they are inadequate to sexually satisfy.

You have every right to feel you need/want a certain size - though ime you don't normally even need a penis to achieve multiple G spot orgasms.

Most men don't understand women or don't want to take the time to understand women, or are too stupid to want to understand women. Sadly some think they have the birthright to have women as they want them to be, rather than as they are.

These are amoung the most profound words i've read on this site about women. Thanks, Lpd.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrMwgTc69y4

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I'll bet you that was the answer he was wanting. I think that a lot of guys are into self-humiliation. They souldn't be.

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My wife needs a big cock to get off. We have 3somes because my dick just can't do it for her after she had a big one.

Well I haven't been personally asked out in over 15 years. Maybe that kind of thing doesn't bother other guys, but it sure as hell bothers me. Now I'd like to think I look alright and dress and smell well, but still nothing every day. Now I've seen your picture. I saw a very attractive woman with great facial features, great hair, sexy eyes, and a great smile. Now I'll never understand why some choose to overlook or bypass people like us. The world surely isn't fair, although I try not to dwell on it. Maybe the key is actually noticing and actually seeing what is directly in front of us, or at least near us. Looking back, I now realize there were chances right in front of me that I didn't see or was too afraid to approach. Few were beauty queens by most standards I guess, but very attractive to me. They were all nice though, which is what I really like and what I really want, and what actually excites me. I'm guessing there are more than a women over the years out there that had no idea that I was interested in them or even liked them too...I hid it very well. They did exist even though they didn't know it.

Now I have no problems with women or anybody wanting what they want, or more importantly, needing what they need. Not really sure how any woman becomes a practicing size-queen though unless they advertise. You could randomly date hundreds of guys before you ran into the preferred or excepted size. I am a member of Measurection, although I post under a different name. Haven't posted on there in awhile though. In becoming one, you will have maybe affectively become what some saw you as being less than truthful or forthright about...to them not me.

Yes...I'd need to date a lot of guys no doubt. And yes if I do convert they'd see me as a traitor - not realizing THEIR ATTITUDES are the reason I'm seriously considering becoming a Size Queen in the first place.

The idea of being thought of as Table Scraps pisses the holy hell out of me. And unfortunately I have a bad gut feeling more small-dicked men than I'd like would see me as exactly that thanks to their hangups.

*sigh*

Measure has been toxic to my psyche. I think I just need to stay away from there. It's made me really start to dislike guys who hate their penis.

Again, I don't think you can take a few, well maybe more than a few, bad attitudes and condemn many or all because of them. Measure is a really just one of many small-penis forums out there. Most seem to generally have positive attitudes and viewpoints from what I've seen and read. I really haven't been on there in awhile, but unless all hell has truly broken out over there, I believe there to be more than a few positive and cool guys over there. Unfortunately maybe they tend to get drowned out by the ones with the negative comments and experiences. I do know that women do catch hell over there at times. Maybe since they tend to have to speak for the world, which is really unfair. Not really sure why some guys expect women to pick and choose a size when they don't really want to, but to me, that is their issue or hang-up.

From reading more than a few thread here, I do know that the grass isn't necessarily always greener on this side of the dick spectrum either. Guys with size do have their own problems, dilemmas, and issues too. As do us guys somewhere in the middle.

To be honest, I don't think smaller-dicked guys have any different or less a attitude/mindset towards women than guys with other sizes. Not really sure how you jumped to that conclusion or assumption. A pig is a pig, and a insecure man is a insecure man.

Maybe your meeting the wrong kind of guys. Not really sure most guys can really afford to be that picky or judgmental. A good many are probably truly happy to have any women look their way.

All hell has indeed broken out over there. It's why I left. I couldn't take the hate anymore. You have no idea of the misogyny that's going on over there - or was when I was still there 2 weeks ago.

And so many over there insist they speak for all or nearly all non-super hung men. It's the ones who are happy and accept themselves - guys like you - who they insist are truly rare.

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I've got the opposite problem, all the women seem to go for older guys than me ...lol!

Valkyrie

Sorry you have been badly treated. Leave the little pricks to their issues. I think a smart woman like you deserves to have whatever she wants - if that makes you a size queen, well enjoy. I am sure there are plenty of us bigger guys ready to give you what you want

Peace and Love
Del

Bump!!!