awellhungboi: If you feel abused, it's abuse.

It's natural that you would be aroused in that situation, though, and also natural that you would be confused afterward.

I've been in similar situations and, for me, it was all about a sense of powerlessness. *And people telling me what I should have done, or what they would have done, only made me feel worse. *"Man, you should have fucked her good." *"Man, I would have told her to fuck off." *But there's a big difference about a sexual experience--even a spontaneous, unsought one--with someone you want to have sex with and a sexual experience--even with someone you may be attracted to--that is exploitative and makes you feel, as you put it, strange.

Life, unfortunately, isn't like porn. *Most people don't whip off their clothes at the slightest provocation, fuck with wild abandon, move on. *We are a precarious balance of wants, needs, hungers, fears, dreams, ambitions, and sex will really stir those things up. * As for me, I've chalked up such things as learning experiences and tried to get on with my life.