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You've brought to this forum a most unusual situation.

Your own personal story of anguish, frustration, and
(really) great horror. Being almost your age, I can only begin to imagine (and, then yet, I cannot) what you must be going through.

You've also pointed out to each of us, regardless of our ages, what a precious gift our sexuality truly is. We tend to take it for granted ...amongst all of today's cultural "high-jinks" over sexual topics. But, the topic of sex so quickly boils down to serious stuff though... when our sexual nature no longer "is there" to the degree we remember it.

I wish I had a quick-fix solution for you....some brilliant "insight" as to what really happened. I do not.

I'm writing to welcome you to this forum and, I want to thank you for an (obviously) painful and most personal discourse and exchange which came from so very deep within you. I'm impressed with your candor; your willingness to share with all of us here in this manner. I'm also impressed with the compassion of your wife (from all indications you have given us). Afterall, she is in this situation, too and she is apparently VERY supportive and there for you in so many, many ways.

I will spare you all the suggestions you might typically expect from one like myself who tries to encourage and get others to look at the "bright side". It's not easy to find a "bright side" in this matter so important to a man.

To date, it seems you have covered basically every angle to discover what went wrong. But, at the same time, I will implore you however, to not give up in finding the answer, the real "culprit" to this situation. There IS one and, it could be anything, too---hidden deep beneath the surface.

Stay just as open to being willing to learn and investigate ALL the possibilities as much as you have had the courage to open up to us here about this chapter of your life. Whatever you do, don't give up.

I want to say (and believe!) that this period of your life too, shall pass and you can return to better days.

And, for the record, I will hand it to you as well--it often seems the men (and women) of modern day medicine don't always want to hear the whole story about such personal health disorders. That fact doesnt' help the patient one bit! I've had my moments of frustration with several of them over "male matters".

Finally----and, I don't know how this will go over.
But, I'm going to suggest it nonetheless. I'm a great believer in prayer. Your sexual dysfunction is as much a cause to seek "healing" as any other bodily disorder.

Just something for you (and any others) to think about.

And yes, most certainly... I'll be praying for you. ;)