2hands+: rtyuii,

a few questions after your interesting post:

rtyuii wrote:
What kind of professional is qualified to administer 'Cognitive behavioral therapy'?

You suggest either a psychiatrist or a psychologist, but surely they are not really the same thing. Which is more likely to be familiar with 'Cognitive behavioral therapy', or is any such professional equipped to take on a case like mine?

How would 'Cognitive behavioral therapy' attempt to reorient my sub-conscious behaviour?

What sort of success rate can therapy of this kind be expected to achieve?

Would you like to give us a short lesson on the subject, explaining the concepts of unconditioned stimulus, unconditioned response, conditioned stimulus, and conditioned response, and how the theory explains how they interact, and how they can be reoriented?


Over the last three years my wife and I have sometimes, almost humorously, commented that perhaps what I really need is for my wife to start a new thesis, so the idea you suggest here is not completely strange for us. What we really hadn't considered is that there could be a theoretical basis for this idea or a therapy to counter it.

I can't really say that our sex-life always occurred in an atmosphere of stress and tiredness, but I can remember notable times when we had excellent sex at the successful end of a very long and stressful day of working together on the thesis. At other times I remember vividly how sex was the key that broke a bad climate between us after some row or other. Other than this I cannot say that I was ever conscious that stress was in any way a necessary ingredient for our sex. The possibility of the existence of a link of this nature really only started to appear when, in relationship therapy, we began to analyse our past sex life.

Perhaps there really is some truth in what you propose.

Thanks.