2hands+: Thanks for the positive response Allie/wvalady1968, but i´m afraid we have exhausted just about every avenue possible.
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Okay, first, during the medical part of your story, you stated that your tests came back "normal" or something to that effect.
Did you have the assay done for Testosterone or for Free Testosterone? The Free, or unbound, test. is the form that readily enters cells and does its job. It's possible to have normal levels of Total Test. and low levels of the Free form. This could cause the decline you describe.
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My results from several exams between 2000 and 2002 are as follows:
Total Testosterone
Pg/ml
Result range
3054 2410->8270
6230 2500->9500
4440 2410->8270
3760 2500->9500
Free Testosterone
Pg/ml
Result Range
21,90 15->40
20,45 7,2->23
14,90 11->50
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Second, see an endocrinologist. Please. This is not normal. My parents are in their late 50s and are still having sex about every other night, according to Mom.
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We´ve seen endocrinologists, neurologists, urologists, sexologists, you name it. I´ve had ultra-sound to check the blood supply to my penis, a brain scan, and even a lumbar puncture to examine my spinal fluid. None of these exams revealed anything wrong. Added to this my wife and I spent 1 year meeting with a relationship/sex therapist. This cleaned up some ragged edges in our relationship, but in the end just served to drag out the agony. Sex was a very important part of our relationship and its near total absence is like a huge weight over us. We continue with our lives together but, at a moment when we otherwise have everything to enjoy life together, we cannot crown it with the healthy sex we used to have.
Once in a blue moon, and usually when we are away from home, I manage to produce an erection from somewhere, and we manage to have sex. These moments are months apart however. In a way I see these moments as a kind of continuation of the erratic decline I referred to in my original post. These moments, weak as they are, are now the highest points of my sexual response. They work because we are as relaxed as possible and in a conducive environment. Basically they are moments when I am able to maximise the minimal sexual response that remains to me.
My problem really does not seem to be fundamentally one of having erections. I don´t have them, not because I can´t, but rather because my body doesn´t want to. On those moments when there is this erratic peak, the erection still does appear, can be almost as hard as normal, and last almost as long as normal. Aside from such moments my sexual response mechanism really does seem to have been almost literally switched off. Today the situations which might have stimulated some sort of response in the past trigger, at the very most, a faded glimmer of a response, that rapidly disappears. So different from 3 or 4 years ago.
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Sure, a family physician is gonna throw Viagra at you automatically. See a specialist. You deserve another chance or three.
Wishing you luck!
Allie
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I guess everyone is different, and not everyone has the luck to have a long sex life. Somewhere in the life I have lived up to now, or in my genes, must lie the answer to my particular conundrum. The problem is that modern medicine is not really as all knowing as its practitioners would have us believe. Sex still seems to be a sort of black box. No-one really seems to understand how it works or what affects it.
Thanks for your comments, anyway. It would be great if someone could help, but my intention was really to provide a warning to others that they should never take their sex life for granted. It is much more fragile than they might imagine.
C