Embarrassing comments about big dicks

My man and I have been to many family gatherings but since we got engaged we've heard more than our fair share of comments regarding his big dick. His family is more laid back and joke about it since its well known within his family that he's above average. When they met me for the first time I saw some winking going on (at me and him) and it took me a while to realize what it was about. My family (being Taiwanese) is more serious and made a big deal out of it after they noticed his bulge. And it doesn't help that at 6'3" he towers over most of my family. I find it very embarrassing and try to deal with it the best I can. Some of the comments:

From his side of the family:
"How does it fit?! You're so small!"
"Does it hurt? You should try ... "
"Must feel pretty good eh?!" (from grandpa!)

From my side:
"Why you pick someone so tall? Your children will be too big, you'll have to deliver by C-section and that will scar that flat tummy of yours!"
"What happens if he doesn't fit and you can't have kids? I want grandchildren!" (from my own father who assumed I'm a good girl and will not have sex with him until after marriage like all Asians girls are supposed to do)

The list goes on and on but I was wondering if this has happened to any other members and how they dealt with it?

Has not happened to me, as my endowment is just average, as is my lover's. But it seems the simplest thing to do is just nip the problem in the bud. If someone starts to bring up your sex life, especially someone in either family, just cut them off, and say "that really is not an appropriate topic for conversation." Don't add anything else, just use that one phrase. If you repeat it over and over and over, eventually, they will understand that it is not appropriate conversation, and will leave you alone in that regard.

Wow I couldn't image comments like that coming from family members....I guess I would just tell them that your sex life is none of their business....Your boyfriend must be huge to get noticed so easily....I have a very close friend who is 6'3'' and married to a Taiwanese girl too....

I've said this before but at my great uncle's wedding recently, well last month my uncle said (we'd been talking about the hot girls there, and one girl in particular):

"Why don't you go over and talk to her, just don't scare her away with your python" That was in front of ALL my family, old relatives who I barley knew and my nan, sister etc. Very embarrassing.

Another time, I was talking about Ali, a woman who has wanted to meet me for ages (we talk on MSN) he said 'yeah I know why she wants to meet you 'n'all, I've seen the evidence' *sigh* lol.

That's about it, thankfully.

My father still tells people I was a breach birth and had to be "delivered by my penis".

So, my whole family and most of his friends have heard. [:(] I have mixed emotions about these types of rumors. 'Course, I am a southerner, and am grateful that my cousins know, in case, well, in case I ever have to look for a date at a family reunion. :evilgrin:

Has not happened to me, as my endowment is just average, as is my lover's. But it seems the simplest thing to do is just nip the problem in the bud. If someone starts to bring up your sex life, especially someone in either family, just cut them off, and say "that really is not an appropriate topic for conversation." Don't add anything else, just use that one phrase. If you repeat it over and over and over, eventually, they will understand that it is not appropriate conversation, and will leave you alone in that regard.
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Your suggested response is pure class, DC. Wish I were naturally so patient with rude people.

My dad use to say at night time when we were younger and had company over "I gotta go put the horses in the stable" his meaning of putting us boys to bed...Jose'Latinoboy9

I have to say that if that many people from my family brought up cock size in a short period, I would be disturbed. It just seems a little weird.

The closest thing I've had to this wasn't with "real" family, but with the family of our very closest friends. A few years ago our families went together on a cruise. Their grand daughter was 19 and ready to cut loose. Anyway, one day at the pool they had a "Whitest Legs Contest" for the men at the pool and some of our group wanted me to enter. (It was January in Michigan. I was way pale.) During this discussion, the grand daughter blurted out, "He'll have to wait for the Third Leg contest. That's his best chance." I just turned bright red. A handful of the group laughed, but I think a couple of them were uncomfortable. I did manage to say, "not if you're the judge, child."

Has not happened to me, as my endowment is just average, as is my lover's. But it seems the simplest thing to do is just nip the problem in the bud. If someone starts to bring up your sex life, especially someone in either family, just cut them off, and say "that really is not an appropriate topic for conversation." Don't add anything else, just use that one phrase. If you repeat it over and over and over, eventually, they will understand that it is not appropriate conversation, and will leave you alone in that regard.
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His family jokes around alot and their way of welcoming/initiating a new person to the family is to find something to embarrass them with. Upon seeing I'm so petite and he's so tall and big, they knew what to do. I take it in stride but its gotten out of hand after a long night where alcohol is involved. Its usually stopped when I say "ok that's enough", turned red from embarrassment, or my man steps in to stop it. Lately I think its gotten better and more civilized.

My family, on the other hand, is a different story. Asian families are more strict, especially the women. My mom has been giving me a hard time lately because not only did I not marry an Asian but someone who's too tall. But I see her point of view and I think she's warming up to the idea. However she was very upset when I moved in with him recently, that's always a no-no in Asian culture. My dad (and the other men) in the family are less strict; I think my dad just wants me to be able to give him grandkids without an astounding amount of pain to 'daddys little girl'.

I usually can handle these types of situations without a problem, but when it comes to family and relatives you have be very careful. Can't disrespect the elders!

I remember reading your thread, that was funny!

My mom has been giving me a hard time lately because not only did I not marry an Asian but someone who's too tall. But I see her point of view and I think she's warming up to the idea. However she was very upset when I moved in with him recently, that's always a no-no in Asian culture. My dad (and the other men) in the family are less strict; I think my dad just wants me to be able to give him grandkids without an astounding amount of pain to 'daddys little girl'.

I usually can handle these types of situations without a problem, but when it comes to family and relatives you have be very careful. Can't disrespect the elders!
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True enough, citygirl... but it works both ways, they shouldn't disrespect you, either. Conversations about you dating outside your ethnic background is one thing, making sexual comments is another. I still stand by what I said earlier. If their comments make any sexual references, it is still not appropriate, especially from family members, yours or his.

I always feel really uncomfortable with dick size talk among family. My father always brags about how huge he is and it never fails: every time I feel like vomiting.

True enough, citygirl... but it works both ways, they shouldn't disrespect you, either. Conversations about you dating outside your ethnic background is one thing, making sexual comments is another. I still stand by what I said earlier. If their comments make any sexual references, it is still not appropriate, especially from family members, yours or his.
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so the movie"Joy Luck club" is somewhat accurate on asian culture? You must have children right away and you are to a sub to your husband. He must plant his seed in you right away.....

citygirl,
My family is not Asian, but is identical to yours (old traditional southern/mtn) & they are extremely nosy about all of my business. I'm so tired of it!
I have written down the phrase that someone wrote, "that really is not an appropriate topic for conversation." however, my entire family thinks otherwise & is practically glued to their windows to see what goes on over here at my home.
I am shunned, except by a couple of my mother's sisters. My older kids will not visit me, as my Dad &my ex has them convinced I'm so kind of fluzzy or something.
My SO is my second partner ever & we attend church together, various other issues i.e. credit, assests, etc. to clear up before marrying one another. And the ex is the one who had affairs, & was engaged to presnet wife, 10 months before our divorce was finalized. I need lots of prayers, this is so tough, But SO & I are very happy & get along wonderfully!

Summertime,

I am so sorry to hear that . Ifind it interesting that so many women on this board of a variety of ethnic backgrounds came from relatively strict families yet some how ended up here! LOL! As far as you being blamed for your ex husband's indiscretions I hate to say that is all too common. Quite often the woman (wrongly) gets blamed by the family and often ( ironically) by the women. I too come from a traditional southern family of sorts (as has Dr. Bubbles) and we have all had the admonitions to a "good girl". Hang in there!

Naughty K.