Same Sex Winks - How to handle?

jeffkevins: no biggie. If you're not interested, just say so. Sometimes there is an icon to hit "no thanks", without ever talking to them.

It all depends on how the wink is interpreted
WINK REASONS
- hey are you with me on this?
- we're all having a good time here huh?
- Good comeback (joke) huh?
- play along with me on this
- hey babe (dude) you're hot!
- catcha later!

I'm sure that there are tons of other reasons to wink-- a wink just out of the blue without knowing what it's for can be confusing if you only associate it witha sexual comeon
One way to respond to winks is with a chin up nod of the head which can be interpreted as
- how ya doin?
- how YOU doin?
- what was that?
- yeah I'm with you?
- OH YEAH!

chin up nods can be construed as many ways as winks-- so if you're confused-- confuse em back

Great answer Pye
You took the words out of my mouth and added lots more. I've been at meetings where I always took it as "I'm with you on that" or if i look up after zoning out, it means "yea it's boring isn't it"

once, rather than wink or wave, i gave a nod with a serious face (i was chewing at the time which only made it cooler)

ive never felt more butch

nodding rather than making any gesture or implication that you either like or dislike the person,

Right on...most of the time a wink means like are you with me on the idea. Like following a comment that you mean as a joke so you wink to show your poker face was just for fun. I can't believe everyone thinks this is such a big deal. I also have some students that from the front of the classroom they appear to be winking at me...it actually is just a reflex thing that they have no control over.

I agree with Pye, a wink can be so many things ........... to automatically assume it is sexual harassment seems a bit of a stretch to me, but that is just me.

There are so many things in the world worthy of worry and deep thought, a simple wink is something I just nod, smile, wink back, or ignore and probably never think about again.

Oddly enough I never had anyone "wink" at me before. In my neck of the woods flirtation is alot more up front and "in yo face".

If you are uncomfortable about it, let them know it and tell them to stop it. If they don't, go to the boss. Invisibleman ;) <=justkidding :yourock:

Snatch the eye that winked out.


Uma Thurman did it on "Kill Bill" so it must be an acceptable practice.

Try saying you are doing employee reviews (if you are in management) and see how many more winks you get! I'm sure the winks are harmless...but then again, being gay, I wouldn't mind them :P

A very "butch," most likely very heterosexual (but then you can never be too sure), security guard winked at me a few months ago -- at a professional wrestling match, no less!

What happened was, I walked in and saw what was going on (this is like the professional wrestling you see on TV), and I just stood there and started to laugh. I caught myself, and then looked around to make sure no one saw me laughing (didn't want to offend anyone), and the security guy caught my glance and winked at me. Not "sexual" at all. Just a sort of "I get why you're laughing."

Look Stone winking is a common thing here in America from both men and women to both men and women, so get over it!! Look i am gay and my straight buddies wink at me all the time at work, it's thier way of saying " hey man" or "What's up" i know there not gay and i know that the women that wink at me, are not trying to "hook up" with me either. It's just a friendly gesture. Now if there is a a certain look or gleam in their eyes them maby yes there is more to it. But since you say both married and non married are winking, THEN IT IS SIMPLY A SALUTE!!!!. Christ man learn American culture!!!