Sugar Daddy vs. Boyfriend

Fleur · 07-01-2010

So, my twin sis started dating a man who is very very wealthy. She did not know this until after a few weeks of dating him exclusively. She knew he did well for himself but didn't know he was a millionaire.

I started calling him Daddy Warbucks at all the things he was giving her (like a $50,000 check to take care of her finances like it was water)...she got upset with me. She told me he was just taking care of her within his means and he was her boyfriend.

Anyway, when dating, is financial security important? To what extent?

I would never date a guy just for his money but it is a powerful motivator for some women. Just like dick size is...to me, sucess is hot, not necessarily monetarily.

Would finding out your new boyfriend is loaded make you more attracted to him?

EDIT: He is relatively her age, she's 25 (like me) and he's 32.

Sparroe Spongecaques · 07-01-2010

In a word.....no.

My 2nd husband and his family are extremely wealthy but i wasnt interested in the cash....i paid for most of the things when we dated,we had a small inexpensive wedding and same with the rings.

When i left him i took my children and a few nappies/diapers and a change of clothes.....that's it!

x704 · 07-01-2010

Sugardaddy to me implies a type of "kept" relationship.

Fleur · 07-01-2010

Well, she's not kept, she does her own thing, is a graduate student but she doesn't have to worry about anything financially now I suppose.

submissivegirl83 · 07-01-2010

Good LORD! $50,000? Well that takes the cake! I thought someone has tried to buy me, looks like some men take it ever further.

Personally I just want him to have a job and pay his bills. I can pay for myself. If he's rich ok, if he's poor ok. I just need him to be responsible for himself. We can work out the rest later if we are going to stay together.

Fleur · 07-01-2010

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Originally Posted by submissivegirl83

Good LORD! $50,000? Well that takes the cake! I thought someone has tried to buy me, looks like some men take it ever further.

Personally I just want him to have a job and pay his bills. I can pay for myself. If he's rich ok, if he's poor ok. I just need him to be responsible for himself. We can work out the rest later if we are going to stay together.

Well, she has a part-time job and is a student. The 50,000 had a reason. It was the sum of her rent for the next year (which is a lot in NYC), paying off her credit cards (not a whole lot) and an expense allowance. He wanted her to not worry about money.

Recently he just dropped $20,000 on some year membership at some private gym in NYC...she's planning on dragging me there. Anyway...I don't think he's buying her, but certainly pampering her within his means.

And their first few dates didn't let on to his money. She only went out to dinner with him and then they were exclusive. And a little while later he told her. So, she loves him for him.

Yowton Y Yingyang · 07-01-2010

So, like, uh, who the fuck cares?

Fleur · 07-01-2010

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So, like, uh, who the fuck cares?

Not saying everyone does. I asked a question while giving an extreme example, if to women (uh...not you) a man who is financially stable is important to them.

submissivegirl83 · 07-01-2010

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Well, she has a part-time job and is a student. The 50,000 had a reason. It was the sum of her rent for the next year (which is a lot in NYC), paying off her credit cards (not a whole lot) and an expense allowance. He wanted her to not worry about money.

Recently he just dropped $20,000 on some year membership at some private gym in NYC...she's planning on dragging me there. Anyway...I don't think he's buying her, but certainly pampering her within his means.

And their first few dates didn't let on to his money. She only went out to dinner with him and then they were exclusive. And a little while later he told her. So, she loves him for him.

Difference in people and lifestyles. I would want him to donate that money to a rescue organization while I take care of myself. That's just me. As long as shes happy with him, that is all that matters. Good for them

Fleur · 07-01-2010

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Difference in people and lifestyles. I would want him to donate that money to a rescue organization while I take care of myself. That's just me. As long as shes happy with him, that is all that matters. Good for them

Yeah exactly. I was okay with the first thing because it was pratical but the gym membership was crazy to me. They're doing it together though.

Either way, it got me thinking how important is financial stability when dating a guy. Not to that extreme of course.

submissivegirl83 · 07-01-2010

Well like I said. I can pay my bills. He needs to pay his bills and show me he is responsible. Later on we can work out who pays for what and who makes whatever. I think in the beginning I just want to know he is financially responsible and secure. He doesn't have to be rich. I'm not rich, but I work my butt off so I have some nice things.

tiggerpoo · 07-01-2010

I gave my gf an investment portfolio of $2.3 million for her birthday a few years back. She's now grown that to over $5 million. And many other things: e.g. just bought her a new Lincoln Navigator last month. Sure I'm her sugar daddy - I'm 63 and she's 25. Best relationship I ever had. She's free to go her own way because she's now financially independent. We've been together 5 years now. She stays in the relationship out of choice.

sbat · 07-01-2010

Money can't buy happiness...but the more you have, the harder you have to work to find things to be unhappy about

je1ani · 07-01-2010

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I gave my gf an investment portfolio of $2.3 million for her birthday a few years back. She's now grown that to over $5 million. And many other things: e.g. just bought her a new Lincoln Navigator last month. Sure I'm her sugar daddy - I'm 63 and she's 25. Best relationship I ever had. She's free to go her own way because she's now financially independent. We've been together 5 years now. She stays in the relationship out of choice.

birthday present - $2.3 million

another present - $50000 car

cool story bro

petite · 07-02-2010

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Originally Posted by sbat

Money can't buy happiness...but the more you have, the harder you have to work to find things to be unhappy about

Ha!