Longest Unsuccessful Relationship

hung_big: So...how long have each of you gone in a relationship that turned out to not be successful? I would exclude marriages with devorce, but I guess that counts.

One thing I will say is, no widows-by-death (your spouse dieing), because who knows how long that could have gone.

Mine would have been with my ex for 10 months (girl)

My longest so far has only been 4 months.... Currently working on starting another one up though

hung_big: Good luck with that Altarion :)

DieHard9x6: Over 4 years, here. Only relationship I've had that ended against my will, lol. I certainly wound up better off in the end, but I'll tell ya, I was miserable for months.

My only relationship lasted just over a month :-(

Currently in a long-distance one, tho....and I'm very hopeful for it too :D

Twelve years...

Definitely will not do that again .Dont have the time.....


Naughty

2 years. And it was emotionally over by month 8.

Word to the wise. Do not ever move in quickly with someone you start dating. Its a total relationship killer.

20 years.

Don't ever try to convince yourself to stay "for the children," regardless of what Dr. Laura says.

how do you mean "turned out not to be successful?" any relationship which works is by definition successful, up until it stops working - and they all stop working sooner or later - and then it ends. once one or both parties have gotten everything they can out of it, what's the point prolonging it? you can't have a relationship unless both of you are actually interested, surely.

if you mean relationships which are dysfunctional and unrewarding from the start, I've never had one, although I'm aware that a great many people seem to derive some perverse subconscious gratification from martyring themselves in that manner. I don't understand how it happens though.

It is clear to me he means dysfunctional,
or a relationship that is not successful by virtue of the fact that it did not continue.
Mine was 5 years.

Hi;
In the early 70's I married a woman with three teenage kids. But once the kids were grown she didn't need a husband. I guess I was a fool not to have realized much sooner. No sex since.

dr. laura aint a doctor. she is a ho.

3 years for me. I broke his heart b/c I found someone else.
*ducks from oncoming tomatoes*

yeah well those are the 2 different things I was asking about. all relationships end once the impetus is exhausted, so how can anyone say that they had a relationship which was "unsuccessful" because it ended? they're SUPPOSED to end when there's nothing more to get from them; otherwise how would we move on and make room for new relationships?

if they enjoyed it, and their partner enjoyed it, then it was successful. surely nobody tries to maintain every friggin' relationship they have for the rest of their life. I have trouble finding enough time to maintain contact with 3 or 4 regular sex partners at any given time, and still leave room for casual fuck-and-forget encounters (which are just as important in terms of mental health). there aren't enough hours in the day or days in the week to include more than that, at least not for me.

yeah well those are the 2 different things I was asking about. all relationships end once the impetus is exhausted, so how can anyone say that they had a relationship which was "unsuccessful" because it ended? they're SUPPOSED to end when there's nothing more to get from them; otherwise how would we move on and make room for new relationships?

if they enjoyed it, and their partner enjoyed it, then it was successful. surely nobody tries to maintain every friggin' relationship they have for the rest of their life. I have trouble finding enough time to maintain contact with 3 or 4 regular sex partners at any given time, and still leave room for casual fuck-and-forget encounters (which are just as important in terms of mental health). there aren't enough hours in the day or days in the week to include more than that, at least not for me.
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Rock, I understand what you are saying and I usually appreciate your non-sentimental approach to relationships, but this time I think your're being a little too cynical.

Do friendships eventualy disentigrate? Does your relationship to your parents or syblings run out of steam so you can "move on"? When you take a partner/lover the relationship is no more preordained to end than a friendship is doomed or a family to break up. The relationship is going to change, maybe for the worse, maybe for the better.

Its obvious one doesn't have time or energy to tend to four partners and sport fuck too, no sane person does! I'm not judging you personaly because (1) I don't know you and (2) there are few absolutes in this world; but the ability to acquire and maintain one meaningful relationship at a time ( OK maybe two ) is a sign of mental and emotional maturity. There is nothing wrong, and it is probably healthy, to try to create good relationships and that is why sexless or unromantic partnerships persist. But sometimes despite wishing, hoping and working at it relationships fail.

On topic, me, after a successful 20 year "marriage" that ended with the death of my partner a relationship of five years like this: three good years, one year of trying to make it work and one year trying to get out.