First Sexual Experience

Just a couple of weeks ago I had my first sexual experience with a woman. Her name was Melissa, I had only met her the day before. The night of, I hung out with her and a friend who came over to my place to watch a movie. She had to take her friend home, and later came back to my place, unfortunately after having a drink.

That night with her, I had my first kiss, first time touching and tasting a woman's breasts, and first time fingering. She attempted to give me a handjob, but was quite nervous apparently.

I am quite pleased with myself with have giving pleasure, and since I did, I really don't mind having not recieved any physical release myself. My problem lies in that I really didn't know her well, and I feel that if I don't get to know her better, I'm going to regret what I did. I doubt she's interested in going out with me, which is disappointing, but I don't mind.

She also said I was the first guy who didn't just try to fuck her, but she couldn't answer if it was a good or a bad thing. She simply said it was weird because she doesn't know what I'm expecting of her.

I don't really have a question, I just know I'll feel better if I share.

hung_big: Hmm...well, there's not too much to say. I guess congradualations would be in order? I don't know what to say really.

Don't worry. You will have many more "1 night stands" if and when you get married. You shouldn't be ashamed or regret it. For one, from what it seems, SHE came on to YOU. And frankly, you have nothing to worry about. First off, I'm betting she won't remember all too much, and secondly as long and no cum entered her, you'll have to wait to be a "daddy" :D

I did what I did of my own free will, and she guided me, and I'm glad she did. I guess I feel that sex should be beyond a purely physical act, it should be somewhat spiritual as well.

dude..

Sex is a physical act that may arise from too many hormones surging at the same time, a need to find comfort and understanding with another person, a basic curiosity. . .whatever. Relationships are based upon trust, respect, and love. Certainly, sex is a part of the male/female relationship but not visa versa.

jay

Hey bud, I think you just need to talk with her outside of some sexual situation. Find out what she thinks & feels about you. I think you did really well.

My first sexual experience with a girl was when I was 13 & I was kissing this cute girl in private. We both had our clothes on. We were feeling each others bodies & she put her hand on my cock & I just came in my pants. I was pretty weirded out, didn't know what to say & just ran away from her as fast as I could. Kinda sad but true. :(

Enjoy your pleasures without worry, guilt, fear and so on - if she likes you, she will come back for more, if not, there is a world of other women! Good on you for taking that first big step, n!

dude..

I posed a hypothetical to two close friends [female] using your situation. I assumed virgin, possibly signed a virginity pledge, etc.

Both felt that you should consider telling your friend that you are a virgin and that you are uncertain if you want to have sex before marriage. Both also agreed that they would have felt weird [and frustrated] if they had gone over to a guy's apartment with the intent of getting laid and after petting, nothing happened.

I think she is probably playing 15 different scenarios in her head trying to figure what went wrong. I would guess that she would respect and understand your turmoil....of both wanting and not wanting to go to bed.

Maybe some of the ladies on the board could jump in and give their views.

Anyway, good luck.

jay

She knew I was a virgin, and we laid our boundaries beforehand.

So maybe you just hooked up with a weirdo. It has happened to most of us. Shame not everyone can be as normal as I am. huh? :P

jay

Weirdo? How so?

Don't you find it strange that after you establish boundaries with a chick that she decides to FU? Then, when it is Mission Unaccomplished, she tries to lay it on you that it was wierd that you did not go all the way. To me, that is strange.

jay

I have no idea what you're talking about.

You laid out your boundaries and she crossed them. Nice to see that it can work in reverse too.

This is probably confusing the hell out of you. Don't worry; most virginity pledges are broken anyway. In fact, studies indicate that people who went through abstinence-only education have sex earlier on average. (These are peer-reviewed studies, not think tanks.)

She didn't cross anything, you guys seem to infer something I've never said.