I told my GF that I am bisexual !

So now it's time to teach Nix the secret handshake...

So now it's time to teach Nix the secret handshake...
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I wonder if he'll get the blender, the waffle iron or the George Foreman Grill. Hmmm.....

I wonder if he'll get the blender, the waffle iron or the George Foreman Grill. Hmmm.....
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I think he's butch enough to merit the George Foreman grill. Anyone who has evidence to the contrary, speak now or forever hold your piece!

I think I want to meet surferboy :) No, you sound like you have it together for a young guy...good for you! I am gay, and if I broke up with my BF and found a girl that I was into, I wouldn't say no, but I know that I would probably want to stray to the dark side :) at some point.

On a funy note - Go black you never go back (I haven't crossed that bridge) and go gay...stay that way.

Just keeping it fun :)

I think he's butch enough to merit the George Foreman grill. Anyone who has evidence to the contrary, speak now or forever hold your piece!
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Yes he is and he's cute enough to get all three.

I assume you spelled "peace" as piece on purpose ;) Well, can't say I disagree with the notion of giving all three!

*sigh* another cutie lost to the other team! :D

Surferboy, you are lucky to be able to identfy your feelings so well at such a young age, I also hope you stay happy!

heh, you haven't lost me zora ;)

Congrats on coming to terms with what you want in life Nix. It's pretty cool that you have decided what you want, and to be able to tell everyone about it.

Yeah, but now you can have your preverted fantasies about him and Jacinto together.

Yeah, but now you can have your preverted fantasies about him and Jacinto together.
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Jeez, Jon, are you trying to kill and old lady??? Well, now that you mention it, I could throw you into that mix too....now I DO have to go.

What? You didn't know my misspelling "prevert" was intentional.

Jeez, Jon, are you trying to kill and old lady??? Well, now that you mention it, I could throw you into that mix too....now I DO have to go.
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You won't hear any complaints from me. I can't speak for Nix, but I think he'll be receptive to the idea. By the way: have you noticed that one of the new emoticons is a 'flesh pile' emoticon?

I consider myself bi because I'm very attracted to men. My first marriage ended after 23 years in part because I finally told my ex that I was bi, but had been faithful with one brief, regrettable, disappointing encounter, many years earlier.

My second wife and I have been married 9 months. She knew from the outset about my feelings, and I have a few bi friends. This can be extremely intimadating and unnerving to someone you claim you'll be faithful to. However, my bi friends are all married, and there is no "hanky panky." It's a decision we consciously made, and because we know this about each other, we support each other as family men, and encourage fidelity. It may sound wierd to some, but it has been immensely consoling during difficult times.

I am happy with my decision. The void I feel at times of NOT having sexual contact with other men is overshadowed by pluses of being faithful to my companion and lover.

We have a therapist that we visit with about once a month. It has relieved a lot stress and concern for my wife, who felt that if she was just more feminine (the woman drinks estrogen, I swear...) that my feeling would go away. It has taken her some time to figure out it's nothing to do with her, because it's a uniquely masculine issue. I feel as you do. I want her feminine, not masculine. And I want guys to be masculine, not feminine.

My bi guy friends and I do get together one on one occasionally, but it's to workout, go to a movie or help with work projects or what ever. Sometimes we are open about our sexual interest in each other, but we have kept our boundaries to preserve our marriages. We have a blast joking about being bi, and our wives chime in with the fun at times also.

It takes a little while for trust to be regained when a shocker like this is dropped on a lover. If you'll be patient and keep talking, usually it will workout. However, my first marriage didn't survive because of fear, distrust, and vengence. However,

Now I feel fortunate to be married to someone I feel is the most beautiful woman on the planet, and who loves me despite her fears ( and I love her, despite mine). It's no different for us than any other couple who is committed. It's a hell of a lot of work, and if you're not willing to constantly work at it, it WILL fail.

I wish you well, my friend. I don't have any advice, just a few thoughts based on my own experience.

Best to you,
Buff

BTW, Zora,
the nice thing about bi guys is that you could have me and so could nixxy. :evilgrin:
So maybe being bi is not really losing one to the other side (although nixxy says he's gay, it's me that's bi.)

I guess I'm just veratile.

The WORST part about being bi, is that you have to be appealing to 100% of the population! I'm constantly exhausted!!! (hehe)

Well, (yawn)
off to bed.

bi, bi.

Buff :P

Buff, thank you for pointing out that being bisexual is a different issue from monogamy! Just because a person is bi doesn't necessarily mean they are incapable of being monogamous in a relationship, it just means they find both genders attractive. Monogamy is a decision two people make if they feel that is right for them and is not contingent upon sexual orientation. It sounds to me like you're handling yourself and your choices very well, I wish you great happiness in your life.

So, I could have you and Nixxy could too? Sure sounds like a fleshpile is about to happen.....DMW, did you bring the baby oil?

Jonb, you'll have to excuse the oversight of your very cute "prevert" spelling, the mental images were just too strong!