Ladies, how big was your biggest

Kat, I agree completely ! :)

I would only say that one of the reasons it seems to me that guys with large penises are better lovers is that they are probably more sexually experienced (for the most part) than guys with smaller or average-sized penises. I realize that's a generalization, but it stands to reason that WHATEVER your size, the more partners you've had, the better you are going to be. The more you do something, the better you are at it. That goes for sex...cooking...driving a car...whatever.

I'm glad my husband is so large given that he was very inexperienced when I started dating him. In his case, his size had nothing to do with his lack of sexual experience, he's just a guy who's more shy and reserved than guys I had dated before. I was a cheerleader in high school and college, always outgoing, never lacking for dates or attention at parties or bars or whatever. My husband's idea of "going out" was going over to the guys place to watch a sports event on TV.

I think this has alot to do with it. Guys like my husband, regardless of size, tend to be less sexually experienced with women and also in dating women. In fact, my husband still blushes when I remind him of when he first asked me out -- he had to be prodded by a mutual friend -- because I could tell how nervous/scared he was when he approached me. I'm not sure I would have dated him when I was younger, but when you're looking for a guy for something meaningful, you tend to have different standards than you did in high school or college !

Jane, do you mind me asking if you are into aerobics or excercise? The reason I ask is I was a cheerleader in both high school and college. It's good excercise, and the last few years I do aerobics quite regularly on my own and at a ladies spa (sometimes 2 hours a day). I sometimes think that all that excercise probably has helped me accomodate my husband's large size (he's 13" long).

I remember watching a documentary a few years ago with a female porn star and she said that she used to excercise regularly (esp. on her days of shooting) and had to stay in shape very rigorously to accomodate all of the (large) men who she performed with. For some reason, I never forgot that actress stating that excercising regularly helped her with large cocks.

In case anyone is wondering, no, I am not that large vagina-wise. My gyno says I am larger than normal but she sees plenty of women who are larger than me. This tells me that I probably stretch alot and all those years of excercising from the time I was 14 years old has probably helped me out.

I also guess this means I will be doing aerobics for quite a few more years...unless my dh's penis somehow shrinks over time !! lol :9

Jean - I used to do gymnastics quite regularly, although not so much now, but I still go to the gym quite often - I think my 'flexibility' has helped me feel comfortable with Mark's size, and allowed me to adjust to accommodate his girth, so hopefully in time I can work on taking his full length. When we first started having sex I could take about 9", but now it's definitely improved to the point where depending on the position and other things, I can take up to 10" of him. I still do all my regular muscle-toning exercises as well as going to the gym, so hopefully in time we'll get there!

Hey - there may be something to recommend -
My mate was a college cheerleader (funny when you consider the college) - and I think (considering your conversation) it may have something to do with her comfort level.

Now- I'm no 10+ inches (8 here) but I've had GF's of similar stature with far less 'desire' than this wonderful woman.
And, thinking back, only one of my former GF's without such physical activities (swimming, running, gymnastics...) had a comfort level for my size with any frequency...

Now, you may have found something to do with how often we do it.

[quote=SexyJean,Apr 2 2005, 10:24 PM]
Hmmm, there seems to be a common theme here. I love to work out (have since I was in Junior High) and am at the gym or pool pretty much every day. I've never done any high impact stuff (breasts are a bit large) or stretching but I do swim, bike and do some strength training. I never really made any connection to vagina size or flexibility.

Kat

GorgeousJane, that's wonderful...I think worrying about the last inch or two -- while nice for both the man and woman -- can sometimes be too much of a fixation. The important thing is to have a GOOD time together ! :9

I was fortunate in that even though I never had much experience with super-hung men, I was able to accomodate most of my future husband the first time we went to bed together. It was quite obvious to me that he was very nervous about having sex (he told me as much, but I honestly thought it was just an excuse in case he performed poorly). Thankfully, I was able to take him into me and make a pretty good night out of his inexperience. If I had been able to only take 6 or 7 inches like his previous gf/lover, I'm sure he would have been an emotional wreck, not being able to please either himself OR his partner.

I'm happy it worked out for both of us. My husband has somebody who is not going to hold his lack of experience against him and is willing to teach him things, show patience, and offer real help not just criticize. As for me, well, I have a wonderful man who showers me with compliments all the time, tells me how lucky he is to have me as his wife, considers me his best friend, and to top it all off every now and then has a pretty good night in bed with his 13" friend ! :9 - Jean

I hope the last inch or so of Mark's penis isn't becoming a fixation for me / us - for a start, I love the other 10+ inches of it too much :P

It's something I'd love to be able to do, but ultimately we are having too much fun at the moment for it to become an issue - no-one has ever been able to take Mark's full length, and I'd love to be the first woman to do that for him, but I think sex for both of us is too good to actually worry about it. It's merely something to work towards while we continue to have amazing, intense fun.

Mark is by far the biggest man I've ever been with, and at first I had a few problems stretching to accommodate his girth, but we worked at it - both of us suggesting and trying things to help - and soon I was able to adjust so he is the perfect, very tight fit.

It sounds like you and your husband have found their perfect partner - it's rare that people find someone so perfectly compatible like you two have, a true partnership to support, encourage and love each other. I hope me and Mark can stay together like that.

Jane xx

You Go, Girl !! :9

Again, without any work, I can handle about 11-12" of him, regardless of what position we use. With a little work, I have been able to get all of his 13" inside me, but it limits BOTH of our mobility. So since the lovemaking isn't being improved by getting that last inch or so, and since he doesn't have some guy ego thing about having his cock totally inside me, we don't worry about it at all. The first few times, it was something new -- I felt it was a kind of neat womanly achievement, and even though he said he didn't care, I am sure he was thinking "wow, she can take all of me!"

That's great, GorgeousJane...I was very fortunate in that my vagina is large enough and elastic enough that I could get most of my hubby (then bf) inside me the first time we made love. I'm not exceptionally large in the vagina department, it's just that my hips and cervix are well-positioned for a large man. Like your Mark, my dh is the largest by far of any man I've been with (next largest was just under 10") but he's more unique in that despite having a great-looking, huge cock, he had very little sexual experience. My hubby told me many times he'd settle for half the size if he had been able to learn from a woman in the art of lovemaking. Well, I'm that woman and I'm kinda glad that I've got the full monty, and not just half !!! :P

That's SO sweet of you, GorgeousJane...we'll have been together 2 years next month. We didn't go to bed together until 2 months into our relationship (and probably 35 or 40 dates). I think the fact that we were both patient with one another, especially me with him, has definitely helped. All I can say is: be honest with one another, do things OUTSIDE of the bedroom together, if one of you isn't interested in somethign the other wants to do, go along anyway and do it for your partners's sake, and last but not least, tell your SO that you love them every now and then and show it by your actions. My hubby tells me every day how lucky he is to have me (I jokingly tell him he's told me that by now!) and always surprises me with little things at the office, or at home, just like when we were first dating. The best thing is he says that while he's not as scared of me as when we first dated, he still finds me every bit as exciting. What could be better than that??!! lol ;) - Jean

Kat, you and I are probably pretty close from what you say in terms of sexual experience when we met our future husbands. However, your husband had way more experience than my husband. I'm curious...was it a problem for him or you when you first dated or were married and having sex regularly? Did you have to get up to speed pretty quickly to satisfy him, or was he patient?

I've had to be VERY careful not to be too demanding of my dh as I don't want to intimidate him or make him feel bad because he was totally unskilled when we first dated. He's gotten alot more confidence, but on a scale of 1-10 -- 1 being virgin, 5 being average lover, and 9 or 10 being a super lover who leaves a woman begging for more -- I would say he was a 1 when we first dated, was up to a 3 when we got married, and is now close to a 5 (maybe I'm being generous :D ). Oh, I wouldn't trade him in, don't get me wrong, he always listens to my needs and gets an "A" for effort, and is caring outside of the bedroom. But I do look forward to the day when I can get him up to a 7 or 8 -- if not higher!! (hey, a girl can dream, can't she?? :) )

Actually (blush) my husband had to learn (and is still learning) to keep up with me! Even though I was fairly young (19) when I first had sex with him I was and still am pretty much a sexual dynamo. I love sex (live for orgasms) and can go at it for quite awhile. We are very well matched in the libido area but when it comes to the duration of sex...I can easily outlast him. That is why we like to use the dildos, his mouth and fingers first. I get as much as I want from that, then I fuck him any which way he likes for as long (or short) as he wants. I love the feel of his penis any day over a dildo, but I also have a really strong need to have multiple orgasms when we have sex. That requires alot of hard, deep and fast sex which tends to cause him to orgasm pretty quickly. We are deeply in love and want to make sure we offer each other as much as possible in ALL aspects of our life (including the sex of course!).

Kat

Kat, that's wonderful !! :P

You definitely have me out-sexed....I can have sex more often than my husband and I wouldn't mind it at times, but I CAN live without it.

My husband was very sexually inexperienced when I dated him and then married him. Despit being very well-hung (or maybe because of it??) he was always intimidated by me sexually. He always felt he was luckier to have me than I was him (I disagree on that for non-sexual reasons, but that's another story). Combined with the belief that because he had a large cock he should be a great lover, well, you add that to a guy with self-esteem problems and you have a major problem in the bedroom. I've slowly coaxed him out of his shell in the 2 years we've been together.

Even now that we are married and having sex -- and I'm very happy with the sex we have, don't get me wrong (I would love for hm to be a better lover, but I'd NEVER complain about him or leave him because of it) -- he still has problems. Sometimes, when we're with friends, the talk gets around to some sex joking and I can always tell that my husband is uncomfortable with the bf's or husbands joking about how much their wives enjoy sex, how many "O's" they have, etc. Sometimes I'll help him out if it's at our place by asking him to go upstairs and get some refreshments.

He's just uncomfortable whenever the subject might boomerang to how much or how well he satisfies me. I think because his friends know he is well-hung, they assume that we're having the wildest time in bed. Again, I'm very happy with him and would never embarass him. But he's afraid that in those situations if we go around the room and ask the ladies how good their men "measure up" in bed (aside from the ruler), he'll come out looking bad. Thing is, he feels worse for ME than for him.

Like I've said before, not every guy is a stud, even when blessed (cursed?) with a large penis. I am happy he is very large as opposed to being the same lover with a smaller penis. But I know his obsession isn't with size, but in being like alot of his friends when they brag about their conquests or bedroom performances. I can only imagine the guilt or lousy feelings he has when he's in the lockerroom with them and they see his cock and just think he's the world's greatest lover. He's probably had that hanging over him for years and it's been my biggest problem in the bedroom since we started dating and then got married.

Jean, did you have any anticipation of getting a hung stud? My partner said she was suprised (when we were dating) b/c I was short but had a monster cock anyway -- she said she would have been more prepared (mentally) if I was over 6 feet tall.

Spring, see my post on the other thread. I go into detail over there.

i'm not an oversized, lot less at little less than 7 but was funny with my gf once that she saw me wearing a condom, we had sex a lot of times but never with condom, so, when she saw me uncomfortable trying to wear it she said "i knew you were big!!!". the problem wasn't with lenght but with girth (this also about avarage, maybe 5,5) but was even funniest when she was so drived that wanted me to put it in her asshole, when, after a few minutes of gentle tries, i was half in she said "wow, i can't accomodate it, let's make it another time...". since then we tried just once a few nights ago but unsuccessful, i think this all started when she saw me wearing the condom and then figuring out i could have been too wide for her ass...

My current bf is my biggest too....he's 11" and I havent measured his girth but I cant get my hand around it so he's def thick and I love it.


Jen