Three-ways

I've had enough three-ways in my time, but it seems that they were all pretty much failures in the aspect of really having fun.

For me, one-on-one or groups of more than three alwasy seem to offer the most sexual fun.

Wopndering what others' experiences ahve been in this area.

I'd say it depends on the three involved. I've been in some ménages à trois that were great; I've been in some that were disasters. One-on-one is better for a romantic session, of course, but three-ways can be super for fun. But again, it depends on who your partners are.

All but one of the threesomes I've had were at least pretty good. With one couple, it was obvious that the husband was the only one who really wanted to and his wife was barely tolerating the situation. I told them I wouldn't participate if anyone felt forced into it, so I left. I didn't hear back from them, but I hope they communicate and respect each other a little more now than they did then.

i have always had fun with 3 somes or moresomes. i dont ever remember having a bad time....one of my best sexual experiences was in college blowing 7 guys at once in my dorm.

The trick to three-ways is to avoid drama.

I've had quite a few three ways (ok, lots of 'em and a bunch of many-ways). Always enjoyable. Am enjoying one "relationship" that has gone on for 3-4 years where we (me, lover and 3rd) get together often for fun and games, and frequently travel together etc. The real trick to making these things work? Clear, well defined guidelines. Before the first jock(or pair of panties) drops; who does what to whom needs to be fully discussed and agreed upon, particularly between the "coupled" two. That is usually where the drama comes from. If you are strong, open, honest and not insecure, these can be truly amazing events. But, you better have your head on straight and your eyes wide open. So to speak....

Hey, Kink Guy. What you describe is the problem I've experienced most frequently because the other 2 have usually been a couple.

Hurt feelings, someone being left out, blah bla blah. It's the resulting drama that frustrates me most, and regardless of how well -- or not -- their relationship is, if they break up, I don't want to be held in the cross fire and be blamed for what was already problematic.

The few 3-ways I've had that didn't involve a couple actually went well, but I think I still prefer a group or one-on-one.

:)

Cool. You, me, Tripod ... no couple, no problem, right? :D

thingsteal: I've been involved with a few 3-ways, but they were all MMF, not MFF.

They were all very strange and, in retrospect, not that much fun. How intimate can you be banging a chick while she sucking another guy's dick?

If I had two girls with me at once that might have been more exciting.

I once did a MFMF. It wasn't an orgy. Just my girlfriend and me having sex while another couple did it on a couch 15 feet away. That was kind of hot. They finished first, then came over to watch us perform. My girlfriend was on top and got off to give me a happy ending blowjob, which totally freaked the other couple out.

These situations are very often mostly about recreation or sport. A three or more way is certainly not the atmosphere to find and enjoy intimacy. They are really just about the sex, and adventure and exhibitionism of it all. Plus, for many people is affords the venue to "experiment" and try/do things they may not be comfortable involving their partner in. MHO.

TripodMillenium: Just remember, DMW, I'm not exactly experienced....


So it's up to you and pony to get me wound up enough that I come out of my shell... ;)


((I've learned enough from reading the wisdom of the experienced not to be so worried, so I just need a little jumpstart..... so to speak... :P :D ))

thingsteal: That's true. A 3 way certainly isn't about intimacy, something I prefer now that I'm married.

For me the thrill of doing a 3 way was about the experience of doing it, the porn-star-ness of it, or being surprised that everybody (especially the girl) was willing to do it. Oh yes, and we were all quite drunk.

Now that I'm older I'd never do a 3 way again, unless of course it involved 2 chicks and me.

Office Space quote:

Peter: What would you do if you had a million dollars?
Lawrence: I'll tell you what I'd do, man - two chicks at the same time, man.
Peter: That's it? If you had a million dollars, you'd do two chicks at the same time?
Lawrence: Damn straight. I always wanted to do that, man. And I think if I had a million dollars I could hook that up, cause chicks dig a dude with money.
Peter: Well, not all chicks.
Lawrence: Well, the kind of chicks that'd double up on me do.
Peter: Good point.
Lawrence: What about you ... what would you do?
Peter: Besides two chicks at the same time?
Lawrence: Well yeah.
Peter: Nothing.
Lawrence: Nothing, huh?
Peter: I'd relax, sit on my ass all day. I would do nothing.