I'm 57. I see your point about age. I see no problem with age if you and I want to have some sex on the side and you want it and I want it. That isn't gross.

But, a real relationship is questionable. At 57 I most likely am older than your dad. It wouldn't be gross. It wouldn't be wrong for a 19 and 57 year old to have a very serous relationship.

As the older person I would have a major obligation to make sure you knew what the relationship is. If you just enjoy giving blow jobs and I enjoy getting them and that is all there is to it, then age isn't a problem at all. But if either of us is expecting more, we should let the other one in on it. That is the only fair.

Only you would know if you can have a equal one on one relationship with a guy that is older than your parents. It will depend on the guy for sure. There are some 57 year olds out there that you could really get into. There are some though that wouldn't be able to find a common level for the both of you to be equal.